How do I tell my mom that she should adopt children?

Question

I go to school and my mom stays home all day.I know she gets bored.When my cousin's bring their babies over my mom always have this funny look on her face.A sad look.Why?I told her about adoption but she said they wouldn't let her because she doesn't have enough money.I don't know what money has to do with loving a child.I know my mom wants more kids but she worried that she won't have the money..(She thinks that when she goes to adopt they won't let her because she's disabled)She shouldn't let that get to her.How can I convince her that adopting a child will be okay?

Answer 1

Your mom should look into being a foster parent.  If she's got all this time available, and she's experienced at being a mother, and misses that, then she might be a good match for a child who needs some love and attention.  

Ask your mom if she'd be interested and offer to attend an informational meeting with her.

Answer 2

You don't.

Adopt a pet instead, that's the role you seem to be willing to adopt a baby for. It is not the responsibility of a baby to put a smile on a disabled woman's face. A baby endures great pain and loss when separated from his/her mother. You would want a little baby to experience that loss just to cheer your mum up a little and let her find something meaningful?

In the USA adoption is handled capitalistically, demand of healthy infants exceeds supply. If she doesn't have a bunch of money, there are plenty of others who do, and they are the ones who will be able to afford getting the babies.  So trust her when she tells you she doesn't have the money. She would know, and please research the matter of adoption lots more.

It's not okay.

Answer 3

I know you have the best of intentions, but you cannot adopt a child to stop from being "bored".  If your mother has not suggested HERSELF that she would like to adopt, then bringing another child into her life is not a priority to her.

Why not ask her if she would consider foster children.  They are usually temporary placements, or she could ask for permanent placement.  However, once again, this has to be her own request, not yours/  

We cannot tell anybody that they should do anything.

Before I adopted my children, from birth, I knew that I wanted to be a mother, and that I had a lot of love to give.  Nobody, suggested it to me and nobody told me what to do.  If was within me.

I always get a sad face when I see a baby, also, but I am 76 years of age now, and all I can do is enjoy my grandchildren and see those beautiful faces of babies that I see on the street.

We have to learn to adjust, according to our age, according to our circumstances and according to whether we are disabled or not./

You have a good heart and you love your Mother very much, I can tell.

Answer 4

It seems like the problem isn't that she doesn't want kids...but that she can't adopt them for other reasons. If the adoption agencies won't let her adopt, there's nothing you or her can do.

Answer 5

If your mother wants to adopt then she needs to look into it. Someone who adopts does not have to be extremely wealthy. If you can barely afford to pay your bills or put food on the table that is another matter.

Also adopting a child any child needs to be about that child. Its about giving that child a family and stable home. Not solely to give your mom something to do and be happy about.  Where is your father in this? I ask this because you say your mom stays home all day so how does she provide for you all, excluding maybe disability pay?

As far as your mothers disability it would depend on what it was, and also the places she went through for the adoption. Several years ago I baby sat for a woman who was totally blind and she  had 3 adopted children (at the time ages 13, 4 and 15 months) I believe she adopted from the foster care system the children were ages 9, 2 and 10months when she got them,

Answer 6

not your decision to make. if shes disabled they probably will not let her adopt.

Answer 7

Its not up yo you at all. Its up to her. If she is disabled then its best that she doesnt adopt.

Maybey you should think about getting her a dog or a cat or some pet to love.

Answer 8

There is a whole process that adoptive parents must go through before receiving a child to their care.   Having some money does come into play of course, but only in the sense that the child will be well provided for.   Love is a wonderful gift to give a child but it isn't always enough to put food on the table.

I don't know your situation.  You didn't mention a Dad.  If he is in the picture, how does he feel about the whole thing.

Has your Mom considered fostering children?   There are many kids out there needing a loving home and the Foster Parents get paid to look after them.

Answer 9

you don't. Its her decision

Answer 10

i would do research on it and let her read it or talk to someone about it that work for an agency

Answer 11

Tell her that since you see her so happy when she see your cousins that she should think about adoption. Even though that she thinks she doesnt have enough money all she needs is that big heart to be in the place of that wanted child. its all what matters in the heart. Ask her to try to see if she can adopt. At least she gets a step farther...

Answer 12

It cost money to adopt a baby also (usually over $5000). If she is single and disabled she probably would not get approved to adopt a baby.

Answer 13

Really it would depend on the disablity she has and if it prevents her from working it might affect her ability to care for a new child 24/7. No the money isn't the most important issues but she can't be late on bills or have shutoff notices during the home visit evaluation time and there must be food in the house and everything or they will considered that financially unable to take in another child.  She may qualify for foster care depending on her disability situation.