How do I tell my oldest daughter that I am pregnant?

Question

Today is my daughters 14th birthday and I just find out that I'm pregnant and she was pretty upset when she heard me and my boyfriend that I'm engaged with that we're planning on having a baby she already has 5 half sisters 1 half brother from her dad and 2 step sisters and 2 step brothers from her step mom and she told me she really doesnt want anymore half brothers or half sisters and now I am pregnant for sure I found out from my doctor this morning. So how do I tell her?

Answer 1

Your just going to tell her. She'll be upset at first, but she'll probably be better later. She might feel that she doesn't get enough attention because of the big family. Good Luck!

Answer 2

I'm glad that you feel punctuation is optional.  If I were her I wouldn't want any more siblings either, aren't you sick of popping kids from between your legs?

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Answer 3

Well don't tell her today, it's her birthday.  Other than that, no idea how you can tell her something she won't want to hear.....I'd be pretty upset about having to share my parents with so many other kids too.

Answer 4

So------ who is the mother???? Tell her that one day she will be an adult and will have her own decisions to make in her life- and this is a decission you have made in yours.

Answer 5

I wouldn't tell her today since it is her birthday.. let her have her day then sit her down tomorrow or something and just tell her you are having another baby.. she is 14 and she will probably have some choice things to say and feel but let her she will change her mind when the baby comes.

Answer 6

Wait until after today and go have a girls day together. Take her out to lunch maybe go shopping or to the park and walk around.

Go and talk to her and let her talk to you. Then tell her. Try to get her to be excited about, maybe go and look at baby clothes and show her that having another new baby sister or brother could be fun.

Congrats!

Good Luck and God Bless

Answer 7

Show her the sonogram. it's kinda hard to be made when you see such an amazing thing

Answer 8

Keep it simple...sit her down, tell her you need to talk to her, and let her know that while you realize that she doesn't want any more sibs, you are having another baby.

Best of Luck!!

Answer 9

you sound like quite a prize - expect the worst.... there's a reason why most experts advise that parents wait until their kids are 18 to start dating and/or have kids with someone else - you are now throwing your s*x life into the face of your 14 year old who is just becoming a woman herself - with a man who is not her father.

Answer 10

Take her for a girls day!

lots of chocolates and break it to her gently.

tell her she's going to be a sister again.

tell her you're sorry even if you don't mean it and tell her that you are trying to understand how difficult this must be.

Tell her she is growing up and decorate her room a bit. get her some cool stuff for her room and say that if she ever needs to get away from the little kids running around the house everywhere she can come here and it can be a pad or something like that.

if she shares a room then if it is possible make it so she has her own space or even her own room.

good luck!

Answer 11

I can tell you when my mom told me she was pregnant I was furious, and didn't speak to her for 3 days. So be prepared for that.

All, I can say is just tell her. She'll scream, cry etc. but leave her be for awhile. Don't yell at her back or anything.. When she wants to forgive you, and speak to you she will.... Thats what I did.

And honestly, its extremely hard. I don't like to hear my mom talk about it, I don't like to see her pick out clothes, I try to avoid the situatuion as much as I can.

Sorry if that makes you feel worse. But, thats from my own experience. My mom told me she was pregnant about 4 months ago. And even now, I get upset just thinking about it. I threaten to move with my dad.... But, she refused. Anyway, I'm sure I'll feel better once the baby comes. Same with your daughter.

Now, don't tell her today because it's her birthday, but you have to tell her sooner or later.

Good luck.