How do I tell parents i'm moving out?

Question

I'll be moving out in a couple of months, i'm 21 (I know i'm a late bloomer!), I believe that i'm secure enough with everything to be responsible to be on my own without help from my parents, but also because they bring stress into my life and can't live with that anymore. I don't know how to approach them with this. They are very, VERY overprotective of me, to the point where it's not healthy, especially my dad. My dad is a really tough person to talk to, he's stubborn and very old-fashioned with thinking, and we're just two different generations of people who often fight alot because of our differences, and i'm sick of it and want to leave. I don't know where to start or how to break it to them. I'm kind of afraid he'll do something to prevent it, since I am moving in with my boyfriend after all. And I know my dad won't talk to my boyfriend about it either, because he'll feel that "there's nothing to talk about" (my dad's been this way for a long time with many things). Any ideas would be great, thanks.

Answer 1

PLAN PLAN PLAN. And when you're done that, DOUBLE CHECK YOUR PLANS!

I know that might sound preachy, but trust me the last thing you want is to stand your ground, tell them you're moving out and then have something unforeseen get in your way (I.E: lack of funds or a slip-up with the date(s) you can move into your new place).

Make sure you have a plan. Make sure you have a backup plan. Make sure you check & double check your plans. Get the point?

After this is done, then find your moment. Only you will know when it's safe to tell him. Maybe at dinner, maybe during church or after...maybe when there are more witnesses. ;)

Whatever you do, be firm. I'm the kind of person who believes anything is possible as long as you're willing to back it up.

The question isn't how to tell your parents. The real question is : Are you READY to tell them? Good luck!

Answer 2

Just show up one day with the U-haul! No im kidding... well i think you already know what you must do and that is talk to them. But be firm and stand up for yourself. They will be mad for a while but eventually they will get over it because they are your parents and they love you.