How do I tell people they are not invited?

Question

I'm getting married in Vegas next Sept. I want a small wedding and that's why we are doing it out of town, but people are already asking if they are invited and I'm not sure how to tell them that they are not, Any suggestions will help. Thanks in Advance!

Answer 1

Here's what you say:

"Awww, I wish I could invite you but we're having a very tiny wedding in Las Vegas and it's only going to be immediate family.  But we're going to have a celebatory party when we get back from our honeymoon so everyone we're close to is included so be on the look out for an invitation to that!"

Often when couples choose to have tiny weddings out of town, they have a larger party when they return so that all those friends & outer family members feel included in the festivities.  It doesn't have to be expensive either - it can feel more like a huge family BBQ or something.  Or you can make it as formal & big as you like!  It's just a time to get everyone together so they can join in celebrating this special time in your lives!  

Answer 2

Tell them it's a small wedding and only close family and friends are invited.

Since you're doing it out of town and people where you live are already asking, maybe it would be a good idea to hold a second reception near your home after your wedding? Consider asking a bridesmaid or other close friend to help you plan a small party that will be a second reception for your uninvited pals to attend. That way, you can have the wedding you want, and no one will feel left out. (Plus, you get another party, more presents and more good wishes ... can't have enough of those!)

Answer 3

Tell them your family is huge so it's decided that only family is invited.

Answer 4

Just tell them that you're not inviting anyone so no one will be offended or feel bad if they can't make it.  My friend did that and it worked wonderfully.

Answer 5

I will just say that the plans are still in the air. You still have one whole year to do you planning. They'll eventually get the point if you still keep saying that nothing is concrete yet. I know I would.

Answer 6

DOn't feel bad explaining that you are having a small destination wedding. It is not rude to want an intimate wedding, they are rude for asking.  

Answer 7

Well, I'm having this same problem, and I would love to help, but, honestly, it will be very very hard. The suggestions everyone is giving won't actually work. Well, they will work in the sense that then people will know they're not invited, but they will not make the people feel better about being excluded.

For some stupid reason people think that your wedding is their business, and they feel insulted if you're not throwing a lavish affair. I see so many people on here say that small weddings are best, but trust me, they only mean it about weddings to which they are still invited.

If you want the small wedding, you're just going to have to tell people you're having a small wedding, and that they're not invited. Then you will have to live with disappointing them, and, yes, even people you thought were friends will be insulted. They don't care about what your wedding means to you, only about what it means to them, and if they're not invited, all of a sudden it's not about them at all, and they will hate you for that. If you're having a wedding at all, people will expect to be invited, and will be angry if they're not. It's just how it works.

It's still a year away, so if you want to spare people's feelings, you still have time to change your mind about having a small wedding.

Really, though, your wedding is none of their d**n business. Good on you for realizing that it's actually the marriage that's important, and your ability or willingness to throw a big party is not related to whether or not you and your fiance should get married. Know, however, that even your closest friends will not understand.

Good luck!

Answer 8

Just be honest with the person and tell them how u feel straight up... Dont lie or downplay anything./. hopefuly they will understand.. They need to respect you..

Answer 9

"You're not invited"

Answer 10

be honest. tell them its small and those are yalls wishes.

GOOD LUCK

Answer 11

Tell them that you are having a small informal wedding, and that after you return, you will invite them over for a picnic. Honestly, they can't just invite themselves! That's just plain rude!

Answer 12

Just tell them that all the spots are already filled up, and that there is no room left and theres nothing that you can do about it.

Maybe that will work, or does that sound too mean?

Answer 13

"Actually it's going to be a small family affair, we wish we could have everyone we care about there but we just can't afford a big wedding right now.  However, we really appreciate your friendship and would love to get together sometime"

Answer 14

I just told everyone that we were keeping it very intimate and only inviting immediate family.

I even went ahead to explain that this was mainly a financial decision to some people...and if they weren't okay with the basic explanation, they were then okay with the financial explanation.

Answer 15

What I told people is,

"While I'd love to have a big wedding and invite all my friends and family, I'm not able to do that, so unfortunately we're having a small wedding with close friends and family.  But thank you for wanting to share in our special day.  I appreciate it."

Answer 16

I would just tell them that unfortunately it will be a small affair and you are limiting it to just family.

Answer 17

"We just having a small out of town ceremony so we aren't able to invite many people. Hope everyone understands."

That way you haven't told them they aren't invited. You're explained the situation and it's not as hard to tell them.  

Answer 18

tell them your having a party when you get back and then say ti got cancelled

Answer 19

First of all, it is VERY rude to ask for an invitation to anything, but most especially to something as personal as a wedding.

You shouldn't feel at all guilty about your plans, especially with people who obviously have no manners!  

Tell them this:

"Oh, we aren't really inviting anyone; we are having a private ceremony".

They don't need to know anymore than that.