How do I tell the dad i am pregnant?

Question

I just found out i am 6 wks pregnant and i am not sure how to tell the dad that i am pregnant. Hes my best friend and we have both recently both broken up with our exs and we had s*x but we decided that we were just hurt and we should wait and see how relationship goes before we do it again. I am 27 and hes 31 so we are both secure in jobs and who were are. I am just not sure on how to tell him i got pregnant from our one night stand. I am sure its not my exs cause id be about 3 months if it was his. we both love kids.

Answer 1

Just tell him. You are both adults and you made a mistake, it's something we all do. If he's a good guy he'll understand. I mean after all, it's not all your fault. He did play a part in the conception, and I'm sure he enjoyed himself.  

Answer 2

  Your both adults.... The best thing to do is sit down with him and jsut tell him flat out.  Say "_________, I know that we both recently broke up with others and as a result, we sought each other's company and I know that neither of us are ready for a relationship, but.... I just wanted to tell you that we are going to have a baby as a result of that union.  And I wanted to know how you feel about it."

If he is a good guy, then he will be courteous of your feelings and you both can work it out together...

Answer 3

If you could lie down and have unprotected s*x with him, you can tell him. You had to know that a pregnancy was a possibility.

Answer 4

You need to know what you want going into the discussion. Of course, you need to be open to hearing his thoughts, too! But I think if you are clear on how you feel, it will go much better. So maybe visualize what you think this situation will "look" like.

ex:

You are planning on carrying the baby full term. You want him to be there for the doctor's visits. You do not want to do anything rash like move in together or get married. You will name him as the father. You want him to be involved in the baby's life. Etc...

Of course that may not be what you want but you get the idea! I think it will make you feel more secure going into the discussion.

Answer 5

give him your test or u/s picture tell him its yours.  

Answer 6

Ask him non shalontly when would you like to have kids in your life?  See what he sais............you'll never know he just might be happy :  )

Answer 7

oh lol at first i didnt read it right and i thought you did it with YOUR dad lol

Answer 8

i know mens reactions well. do it subtley!!! unlike me with my first. i called him at work and he worked with heavy machinery.BIG MISTAKE. he almost put a drill through his hand. with my second i beat around the bush and hinted that i wasn't feeling well and skipped a period, it went a bit smoother. this one i straight out said i might be pregnant and he said when i knew for sure tell him in a subtle way. i waited till he had a beer after work and sat with him while he played a game and said after 2 hours, "can we have a talk when your finished." he said holy **** and was fine 15min later. he just didn't say much for those 15 minutes. when i told my friend to tell her husband subtly she blurted it out. NOT SUBTLE!!!

Answer 9

I agree with grace... I thought you were talking about your dad at first! I would just be straight forward with him and let him know that you are pregnant. Offer to take a DNA test once the baby is born.  

Answer 10

since he is your bf just come out and tell me maybe its ment to be

Answer 11

There is no easy way of saying it, I'd suggest going to a coffee shop or any other public place (less chance of him making a scene) and just telling him up front that you are preggers and what you expect of yourself and of him.

Good luck  

Answer 12

u should tell him !!! im agree u probably would make him happy.... plus in this life there is no coincidences ...everything happens for a reason...and 1 of 100 get pregnant from only night... maybe he is the one  

Answer 13

I can't advise what the best way to tell him is without knowing you both but it sounds like you have a good relationship with one another so however you feel most comfortable telling him is your best bet. Try not to stress too much, you are both adults and will make the right decisions I'm sure. I would urge you to consider one thing though and that is to not jump into a relationship with one another just because you are pregnant cause that is the worst reason and will only end in tears for everyone. If it happens down the track as a result great for you both but if you've just decided you don't think this is the right time for you then it still isn't. Anyway the fact that you have a good friendship without the extra emotional ties just makes for a really good situation if you don't get together. I hope that it all works out for you and don't stress it's not anybody's fault it's just the way things happen and by the sounds of it he is mature enough to see that also. Good luck

Answer 14

Your father is always going to be there for you.  As long you're you're open and honest with him, he'll respect you a lot more.  You're bringing a new life into this world, a child that he will always love, no matter what.  Just sit down and talk to him.  I'm sure everything will work out fine.  Every body makes mistakes, you're only human!

Answer 15

I was married 8 yrs and found out my wife/girlfried at the time had cheated. Swab test .... not good. My brother has raised his wife's son thinking it was his since day ........Good guy.

Your parents at your age should understand, if you love ur best friend, f#@&k all the rest, even if it hurts.

If you don't tell your Dad his little girl needs help. Fathers are amazing forgivers when it comes to thier "little girls"