How do I think of him as just another person?

Question

A guy I only dated twice or something - then I found out he already had a gf/wife and child (he was cheating with me) - but he was my first sexually. So I have been hurt but moved on at the time, quickly.

I recently found out that he is still married to her (7 yrs later) and has invested cleverly and has millions.

Now I have this mental image of him doing so well in a happy life........and mine hasn't been super happy lately.

I think it just seems like he's this great person with a great life because he was my first and humiliated me. How do I make myself realise that he is just another person - not somone to be envied?

Answer 1

Maybe HE has a happy little life, but I'm sure his wife doesn't.

That wonderful little family unit that you are envying is a sham.  He cheats on his wife!  You need to tell yourself that you would never want to be married to a man that cheats on you (belittling you and stealing your self-worth) for ANY amount of money.

There are many men out there, money or not, that will love you wholly and completely-because you're you, no lies.

Answer 2

I wouldn't doubt if the, being so selfish he would cheat, characteristic brought him cut throat success in business.