How do I view him as just another guy?

Question

A guy I only dated twice or something - then I found out he already had a gf/wife and child - but he was my first sexually. So I have been hurt.

I recently found out that he is still married to her (7 yrs later) and has invested cleverly and has millions.

Now I have this mental image of him doing so well in a happy life........and mine hasn't been super happy lately.

I think it just seems like he's this great person with a great life because he was my first and humiliated me. How do I make myself realise that he is just another person - not somone to be envied?

Answer 1

You have to be the stronger one in all this. If he treated you like c**p while with another woman and has a child then he's not the smart one. So what if he's invested nicely and has millions. All that is material stuff. He probably does that to feel good about himself. Therefore was not right for you at all. Yes I know that he hurt you but you just hold your head high and keep moving forward. Because your right he's not worth it to be envied by you at all. He might actually want that to feel good about himself again.

So you just keep truckin ahead and you'll be fine

Good luck

Answer 2

just think about him being equal to you