How do Learn how to verbally stand up for myself?

Question

I am a nice person and prefer to get on with everybody but feel that at times I don't stand up for myself like I should!I'm not really the argumentative type but still need to learn how to stand up for myself more!

Answer 1

Step 1:  Take a deep breath.

Step 2:  Say what's on your mind.

Step 3:  Be ready to deal with consequences.

That's all there is to it.  The only way to stand up for yourself is to just open that mouth and let if fly.  Otherwise, you'll continue to get run over.  That little mental b*****d we call fear is the only thing holding you back.  Sink or swim.

Answer 2

you always say whats on your mind. don't care what other people say. i am virtually nice. but i always speak my mind. if you feel something is unjust or wrong, tell someone about it. don't not say anything for fear of other peoples feelings.  

Answer 3

Me to, and there is nothing worse than hearing people who go on about how "they say what they feel",and "what you see is what you get", cause its those sorts of people that upset others and yet when the tables are turned and someone tells them how they feel they dont like it.   I hate to argue and i certainly hate to upset people but i do give my opinion without being nasty about it, its all in the tone of your voice. However sometimes its best to keep your opinions to yourself, you should judge the situation, if you think that you could spark a riot by giving your opinion then dont bother however if you think you could just contribute your say into an adult debate that will still end in friendship then go for it.  If you got someone taking the p**s out of you and you feel as though your gonna cry then either walk away,take a deep breath and laugh it off or take the p**s back.  

Answer 4

Always reply to any attack logically, calmly and accurately. NEVER get irate! You can learn to respond in this way, and thus annoy the **** out of your aggressors!

Answer 5

Standing up for yourself does not necessarily mean you have to be agressive or mean.  It's all about asserting yourself and learning to say NO as well.

If someone asks you to do something you don't want to do, or don't have the time, just say - "I won't be able to do that. Maybe you can find someone else".  Never apologise for something that isn't your fault.  And, if something is your fault, always say "I apologise" rather than "sorry"... you can follow up, "I apologise" with a "but"...

Hope that helps.  There are good assertiveness books out there too!

Answer 6

You just have to learn to talk back.  I usually talk back to my parents.  Sometimes to teachers, and very little to kids my age.  I usually just punch them in the face.  (Unless they're girls, I don't punch girls.  And I only punch them if they're really pissing me off)