How do SAHM's find people to talk to?

Question

I've tried 7, yes 7, different Yahoo Groups for Mom's and got tossed out of every single one as it seems as if when things get heated I'm always the pot stirrer, or so they think. I feel like I have no one to talk to besides my husband and I'm going crazy. I did work and even then I couldn't find anyone that I could relate to. I don't trust easily to have a one on one friendship (unless we'd have so much in common that it's unreal) and I come from a town where everyone knows everyone. How do I meet other Mom's or women to talk to? My daughter and I go to the park all the time, but I never see anyone else there to talk to and when we do, they'll older kids with no other Mom in sight. My daughter starts preschool in the fall, so I'm hoping that will help but the Mom's don't stay. I'm not open enough to the idea of starting my own Mom's group. Any ideas?

Answer 1

I dunno. I have tried mom groups too and they didn't seem open to making new friends.My son is in gymboree and he has fun and I like taking him there but I still haven't made any friends. I feel the exact same way. I want someone I can call and be like hey lets go to the park today and they would say ok sounds great...You don't live in texas do you lol..

Answer 2

you can join a group with other people with the same interests...if you like to read, join a book club, if you like sports, join an adult sports team or bike group, volunteering is great, like the national woman's club, or just any volunteering group.

You don't necessarily have to befriend other SAHM moms.

Dont use your daughter as a means to make friends.

I would also suggest thinking about why 7 groups kicked you out, that is a lot. Try to trust people and dont' stir the pot so much!! No one wants a drama queen or gossip queen in the group!

Answer 3

I ring my Mummy twice a week. She keeps me sane!

Answer 4

I loved this site & found a great group of ladies in my area... it's all about supporting YOU!

Enjoy

Answer 5

Try not to judge so easily. People are people and finding a good friend is like finding another man husband material-worth. It takes years to have a good friend. When you disagree, try to word it differently. I know some years ago, when I typed and sent emails, it came across as mean but when I read it over, I got the chance to change things. Sometimes it's not about having too much in common (i.e. Yahoo Answers), it's about communicating and learning about different people with different thoughts and different cultures. I know you wanted to know about chat sites but when you get booted from almost all of them, maybe you should look at you. As you can see, I don't really care about some ten points b/c someone needs to tell you the truth before you isolate yourself from society completely. And it's not a bad thing to have people who don;t have anything in common with you. Open your mind and you will get a lot more out of life.

Answer 6

try meetups.com....it usually has mommy groups in your area....real ones, not virtual ones.....some are even specialized so if you find that you are the odd ball in most groups, you may be able to find the group of "odd balls."

church is also good.....if you aren't really religious, the unitarian church is more of a club than a church....everyone there believes whatever they want, most of them are agnostic/atheist

i've also met some moms when i've used the mother room at babies r us

Answer 7

Have you tried meetup.com? They have local mom's groups for kids of various ages. Have you checked at your church? That is a great place to meet moms that you at least have one thing in common with. You could also enroll your child in gymboree classes or even swimming/gymnastics at your local community center or the YMCA.

If nothing else your daughter will find a best friend at preschool and you will have playgroups through that where you can socialize.

Answer 8

I was a stay at home mom for almost a year and like you very bored!!!

Do you have any mom's groups in your area???  So you do not have to start your own?

I do Purse party. It's a home based business, but going out and doing the parties are what I love. I get to meet new people and have adult time! Instead of speaking to a toddler all day!!!  

Good Luck!!

Amber

Answer 9

I'm the same vvay, i'm a sahm and dont have anyone that I really hang out vvith or talk to. My son also starts preschool in the fall so i'm hoping that I vvill meet some other moms to talk to. I havent tried any groups or anything. My son played soccer so during soccer i had other moms to talk to but novv thats over so I dont talk to them.

Answer 10

Sometimes you just have to put yourself out there and introduce yourself to people.  Be involved with your daughter's preschool....it's a great way to meet other moms.  My oldest son is in soccer (he's 13 now and I've always been a stay at home mom) and I have no problem striking up a conversation with one of the other parents...even if I don't know them.  I've always found that if you are friendly, people generally respond in kind.  You don't have to actually trust them to have a casual conversation and you may meet someone that you do have a lot in common with.  Good luck.