How do adopted kids feel themselves.?

Question

How do adopted kids feel themselves.?

Answer 1

We have always talked about adoption very openly and frankly.  To my kids, it's just a part of who they are, and they are comfortable sharing the details of their adoption stories with others.   My oldest daughter's science teacher mentioned to me at parent-teacher conferences that my daughter is very proud of being adopted.

Answer 2

well if there infants they dont really know pre schoolers  feel mis placed and confused kids feel angry or sad they can be depressed  somke can leasd to sickness

Answer 3

feel about themselves?

I have a 18 year odl brother and he is my brother in every way. when he turned 18 he wanted to meet his birth parentsbut we havent had any luck. My mom is even helping him. I think he feels good about himself. We joke and act like brother and sister.

Answer 4

well it depends on who adopted them. i feel just fine. its okay to be adopted as long as your better off that way

Answer 5

I always knew that I was adopted. When I was little I was proud of this. I would tell everbody and hardly anyone believed me! I felt special because I was chosen whereas quite a lot of children aren't wanted by their parents. I always loved my adopted parents, still do. And I am glad that they let me grow up knowing I was adopted. I think some people who find out when they are adopted when they are teenagers or older may feel betrayed so it's best to know from the start.

Answer 6

i have a sister who is adopted. half the time we all forget. we are all loved the same by our parents and my sister is my best friend. she knows her mom did what was right for her by setting her up for adoption. her birth mother loved her enough to do what was right and my whole family is very grateful

Answer 7

i do not understand your question, i am adopted along with 5 siblings, we have always known we are adopted, and we have always been ourselves, we feel ourselves, we are ourselves, and we are our parents children,

Answer 8

Umm.... I think maybe you need to rephrase that question! Honey not a lot of people are going to understand you!

Answer 9

My best friend of 24 years, was adopted when she was 2 years old.  She was adopted into a good home - they had two boys of their own, and wanted a little girl, but medically could have no more.  Father and Mother were wonderful people who provided VERY well for their family.  Pampered, babied and loved by older brothers, a sibling like them, no different from them.

She does not know the circumstances of her birth mother and nothing / little of the father.  

She has always known that she was adopted.  

She has always felt abandoned and insecure about herself.  Like she wasn't good enough. It seems to me, subconsciously she feels that she'll never measure up, that she fell short of  whatever standards her Mother had, and she gave her up because of it.

I honestly think that if my friend had NOT grown up with the knowledge that she was adopted, she would have been a totally different person. I have often encouraged her to seek answers to the endless questions she has, but she won't look / ask.  Too scared that she may find out something she doesn't really want to know.....or somehow STILL be a disappointment....or worse, be rejected all over again....

She is a kind, beautiful, caring WONDERFUL person, and am grateful to have been blessed with her as my friend.  I am sad at the same time that her Birth Mother has never known how much of a gift she really was...

I commend the people who do adopt children and give them love, attention and the care DESERVE if they cannot have that with the ones that concieved them.

Answer 10

I was adopted almost 60 years ago and knew it ever since I started asking about babies.  

There was never a problem, my folks were open and loving.   When I go older my family wondered how I felt about being adopted.  It was a blessing, I had a warm loving home my birth mother gave me best gift that she could the chance to grow up without the handicap of being an unwanted baby.

As an adult I got my first shock from of all people, my grandparents.  After my Dad died I was cut from any inheritance from his family since I was not 'blood'.  

I don't mind not knowing about my real family, doctors understand and luckily there have been no health problems.

My kids know they can have thyroid problems and rheumatoid arthritis, though.

Answer 11

.My husband is adopted! He often feels very down about himself and wonders why he is was not good enough for his parents to keep. He asked me after I had my son if there was anyway I could of gave him up. It was very hard to answer w/o making him feel bad, but my answer was no. He still does not understand at all how his mom gave him up and hates her for it. I think it has made him very insecure and he has always felt like he is not good enough. He has had a VERY painful experience from it

Answer 12

I'M ADOPTED. I FEEL NO DIFFETED THEN AND OTHER PERSON. I WAS TREATED LIKE I WAS HER BIRTHCHILD.

ITS OTHER PEOPLE THAT MAKE ADOPTEES FEEL OUT OF PLACE. BUT ITS OK TO BE APODTED. I FEEL GREAT TO KNOW I WAS VERY LUCK TO HAVE A MOTHER THAT LOVED ME. I'M NOT SAYING MY REAL MOTHER AND FATHER DID NOT LOVE ME.BUT FROM WHAT I KNOW IT WAS A TIME IN LIFE THAT SHE WAS YOUNG AND HER WAS IN THE ARMY.AND IT WAS HARD ,BUT THEY WANT ME TO HAVE A GOOD LIFE. SO I DID. I'M MARRIED WITHE 3 KIDS AND THEY ALL KNOW I'M ADOPTED.

Answer 13

My sister and I are adopted from two different families.  I love my family and would not change it for the world.  The one thing that I cannot stand is when a bunch of people keep telling me that I should look up my birth parents.  I keep telling them that I have my parents, my sister, my brother-in-law and my nephew.  What more do I need?

I will admit I have wondered if I have any other siblings, you know how you see someone or a picture of someone and you think, Wow, that person looks like me or I wonder if they are related to me somehow.

One thing that I wish my parents found out more about was mine and my sister's medical history.  It is very difficult to fill out medical forms without all of the details or trying to explain to your own children why they might be sick if it is a serious illness.

I would highly recommend to parents adopting or looking to adopt that you find out as much of the family medical history as you can.

Answer 14

with their hands. Don't worry, it's completely normal and a part of growing up and discovering their bodies.

Answer 15

i had a rough time around the age 14. i think it was because this is such a crappy time for everyone. i lived in a small town and everyone knew i was adopted. so that made me different, and in that age group, different isnt good

but before and after that i had no problems with it. i always knew there was a good reason i was put up, and i knew it had nothing to do with me. i had a stable home life and really wanted for nothing.

some feel abandoned, i never had those feelings. i figured whatever the reason i was better off. i have found her since then and there was several reasons, but i never asked, i didnt need to. she offered the information. i think she felt she owed me an explaination, i was fine with that. she wanted me to know, so i listened. but it didnt change anything. i always just knew she did it for me.

i personally can not understand the hostile feelings some adoptees have. there is nothing wrong with them, the problems lie with the birth family and the events in their lives. the child is not worthless or inferior (some feel like this because the mother goes on to have other children later in life and she keeps them) that birthmothers life was not stable at that time.

overall, i am glad i was adopted. i am actually proud of it. i have so many people that love me how can i be angry with any of them. one mother gave me life and another gave me a life, what more could a person ask for