How do build up my 10 year old son self esteem ? and How do I make him be more positive?

Question

How do build up my 10 year old son self esteem ? and How do I make him be more positive?

Answer 1

Try doing some community service/charity work with him.  Accomplishing something that really helps someone else really adds a little pride.

Check with your local United Way.  They typically serve as a clearing house for all kinds of volunteer oppurtunities!

Answer 2

Constantly affirm and encourage him. Do it when he does work to earn it, when he doesn't earn work to earn it. Tell him he looks great today, give him an example of a good person and at the same time build him up in the progress.

You can't make him be more positive himself, but you can give him a great place to come to where he will be loved and admired for who he is. Hopefully that will both build his self-esteem and strengthen your relationship with your son.

Answer 3

Stop beating the c**p out of him.

Answer 4

Try enrolling him in a drama club - I am hoping that my daughter-in-law will let me do that for my eight-year-old grandson ( a middle child of three so he needs building up).

Answer 5

Get him involved in sports or hobbies. And lead by example. YOU be more positive. Kids learn EVERYTHING from their parents.

Answer 6

d**n, moose took the words right out of my mouth.

Also, don't make excuses like "it hurts me more than it hurts you". Children are gullible, but not THAT gullible.

Answer 7

It makes me sick that you have moose and David making stupid as comments like "stop beating him" are you two really that stupid? where do you read that she beats her son? People like you need to just fall off the face of the earth.

Sorry about that but they are just idiots. I think what you need to do is get him involved with sports if possible. and make sure that the group he hangs around are not putting him down. I had the same problem and I would just constantly tell him what a great person he is and how smart he is. every time he would do something good I would praise him and it worked. Alot of times our kids are being picked on in school. kids can be so mean. Even though we feel our child is perfect kids at school will find something wrong.

Give him a attitude that he is the best in all he does no matter what others say.

Now my son is more positive and still respects others in school. He has a big heart but lets no one belittle him

good luck!

Answer 8

Karate classes might help.It builds self esteem to master a new skill,and if kids are teasing him and he can defend himself,it might help.

Answer 9

Children are big into what their parents think, say and do.  So if you and those in your family try their best to always see the silver lining in everything, he will get the hang of it and start to be more positive too.

With self esteem, the best thing to do is congratulate him on things he's doing well and comment on how hard he must have worked to get to the goals, etc....

It's not much, but it's a start.

Answer 10

im not sure of the whole situation and you may not be either- possible issues with classmates? not doin well in his studies? It could be anything. Maybe getting invovled w sports clubs or anything he may be good at could help.

Answer 11

My son is 9 and up until this year had no self esteem at all. He's been struggling with ADHD since kindergarten as well. I've tried to talk him into karate, baseball, soccer...anything that he can be apart of. This year he finally joined the wrestling team and I have seen such an improvement just in 5 months. That might not work for your son, but you might talk to him and ask him why he's negative? Maybe it's something that just needs explaining or encouragement.

Answer 12

When you get answers to this let me know. I am having the same trouble with my 9 year old. Good luck.

Answer 13

Let him know that you love him and show it abundantly . Don't make all decisions for him. Let him decide even if you know its a wrong decision. He will eventually learn from his mistakes.

Don't interfere in all the things he do. Encourage him to come to you for any advice but don't make him feel low.

Answer 14

Could you give a little more info/background?

Answer 15

start with yourself, is my guess

Answer 16

You should have put more detail to the question for a better response. But I will do my best..First try to find out what angers him or what is distracting him.Ask him questions about his self to find out what  interest him and you all could do things together that will make him more proactive. Have family nights let him know and feel the love of loved ones give him some responsibility let him feel like not only is he wanted around the house but he is needed around the house that may make him feel more positive.