How do change being so 'angry'?

Question

I know I have a 'problem', Im a perfectionist, Im super critical, not just of people but myself. When things dont go as planned I do lose it...now Im actually starting to get angry at work, which is very dangerous. It makes me so angry sometimes to work with people who JUST DONT SEEM TO CARE about where their lives have/will end up. I get more so annoyed, I really really dont like stupid people, and Im aboslutely surrounded by them. I dont think I'm better than people, but I do realize that when I feel that someone is stupid/loser I talk down to them, and therefore talk down to ALOT of people at work. If you knew these people you'd think they were losers too, but thats not how I was raised, I should accept people for who they are, and not let it effect my MOOD! Why do I care so my about how people live their lives? Its like I want to pull them all aside and show them what they should be doing, but WHO AM I TO JUDGE THEM?

Can someone please give me an awakening, calling me names is not going to help, I call myself names... maybe an explanation as to why I care so much and how to avoid caring about people? I know that sounds harsh... but please.

Answer 1

maybe you focus on other people's lives because you are insecure of yourself.  I don't mean to sound new-agey or anything, but maybe some activities like meditation or yoga will help to calm you down, to check in with yourself, and to become empowered and comfortable in your own skin so that you don't need to focus on others.  Maybe you need to be in a line of work where you aren't dealing with people so much?  We are all critical of others to some point, but I would be worried too if it made me so angry.

Answer 2

You sound like you are describing me. I've just accepted that I hate humankind. I don't mean to say that I have really found a way to cope with how frustratingly stupid people are, because, barring mass murder, they are not going to change. But I hate people and I will never understand why they live in such blind stupidity, carelessness, and hypocracy. That I have come to embrace. Do you like rock music? Sometimes it helps.

I find that a lot of people ask what is wrong with them or how they can change. I don't believe they realize that they are more "normal" than anyone else, or at least more aware of the realities of human life. My father always comments on how unique I am. I tell him there are more of me than he thinks.

Answer 3

Hey your a maniac like me!!! sit back and enjoy it!!! you cain't change them only your actions