How do daycares deal w/hyper/aggresive 4 yrs old when they push or hurt others.?

Question

i am worry to send my child to daycare because he's very active and sometimes likes to push other kids around. pls advice.

Answer 1

At the daycare where I work we use timeouts(one minute for his age--example four years old-four minute time out).  I think that if he has a lot of time-outs he may(or may not) get the idea that if he's going to hurt other kids he loses some play time

Answer 2

I want to add one more thing to the time-out part, which I totally agree with (one minute per year of age is a good rule of thumb--unless the child remains aggressive or out of control in time out; then you can add minutes until the child is calm). Kids at this age also do not really understand empathy--they don't see that their aggression can cause harm or pain to another child. So the child needs to be placed face to face with the other child so he can see that his actions have consequences.

Answer 3

put him faced to the wall and give him a timeout and tell him if he pushes anyone...he cant come out until he apologizes

Answer 4

I usually talk to the child, let them know what they did was wrong, give them a time out, ask them to apologize (anyone or combination of the above) If the behavior is consistent, I speak tot the parent. As a teacher, I find it helpful if the parent speaks to me, that way I can make a plan and document what works or what does not work for that particular child. In the past, I have made behavior charts which awards the child with a star or sticker for a specific set of behaviors they are trying to improve. You might want to speak to the teacher about what his behavior is like at home. You might be surprised. My daughter is a terror at home and at school she is a saint. They can't beleive we talk about the same child.  

Answer 5

They will put him in time out away from the other kids for a short time. Just talk to the teacher about how he acts.Im sure your son isnt the first child to push or hurt others.

My mother in law is a director of a pre-school / daycare and they just put them in time out they NEVER spank or yell at them.

It will be ok just take some time to speak to the people at the day care:)

Answer 6

first, realize that this is common and he'll outgrow it.  be proactive and speak with the teacher immediately so that the two of you can come up with a plan for school and at home that is the same.  i'm sure she'll talk to him and explain the rules and what happens if he pushes.  if/when it happens she'll then follow that plan.  may include time out, apologizing, etc.  he will get through this and be fine.  it'll just take awhile so be patient.