How do homeschooled boys find girls to date/have s*x with?

Question

I don't mean to be too crude, but one of the highlights of my whole highschool experience was being on the football team, toking up and drinking with the guys, and dating/having s*x with the cheerleaders. I lost my v-card to a cheerleader as a sophomore. If you homeschool a son, how can you make sure he gets to experience those type of social bonding experiences?

Because, honestly, being on the football squad, being popular, and being in a college frat has helped me IMMENSELY in my business life. It gave me confidence at a young age, you know.

Answer 1

Thank you, I have cut and copied your question and will proudly use it in all socialization posts here as I think it covers the gamut quite nicely.

Answer 2

Part of the reason to home school is too keep our kids from the social pressures that cause teens to do these really stupid things like have s*x before marriage and toke it up with your buddies. I don't think these things have any thing to do with your success in life but are part of a self destructive life style. I pray my kids don't lose their "v-card" as you put it until their wedding nights. As to the question of how will my son meet girls. My kids are in home school groups and church activities. they aren't old enough to date yet and if I can help it won't date until they are 17 or so and will do so under supervision. That way they don't have the opportunity to have s*x. I would prefer a courting situation where an adult is around not necessarily at the dinner table but where they can stop certain behaviors before the child makes a mistake that they will regret later in life. I for one wish that I had stayed a virgin until I had married but I can't erase my past. I was pregnant before I was married thank God the man stuck around unlike so many teenagers who disappear after they find out. So many have the thought of if she gets pregnant its her fault and I don't have to be responsible for what I helped to create. What if your irresponsible behavior got some one in that situation? Hopefully my kids will never have to deal with it because I was a vigilant parent who raised my kids with GODly principals!!

Answer 3

We ride through the red light district and pick up several girls.  We do not want to limit his exposure to only one girl a night.

We do our toking up and drinking while sitting on the couch on the front porch of our trailer...if we can get the dogs to move off of the couch.



This answer is not serious as I am sure your question is not serious.

Answer 4

He can meet girls at social events you enroll him in: church youth group, Parks & Recreation activities, community college sports classes that are open to high school students, volunteer work he can do (if he does it in girl-type places like hospital helper or with young kids, it's easier!), joining sports teams locally like youth football or basketball teams in the area, summer camps, clubs like chess club or reading club at the library. Even camp counselor at co-ed summer camp for high-school kids, if he's good at something.  LIFEGUARD!!-always works!

Those are a few ideas!

Answer 5

First of all, I hope my son doesn't grow up thinking it's normal or desirable to be having s*x with high school cheerleaders or sitting around with the boys, behaving like immature idiots while toking up and drinking. None of that is responsible, mature or even desirable social bonding.

Secondly, we believe in courtship, not dating. What does that mean? It means it's dating but in terms of discerning if it's the right person to marry. Someone can blast me all they want for thinking this is a strict Christian 'rule', except that I followed this idea, on my own (my mother didn't understand why I wouldn't go out on dates with guys), as a teen, before I ever became a Christian. There is no need for dating at the high school age. That doesn't mean that guys and girls don't get together; I see and know about homeschooled teens doing things with others all the time.

Third, there are plenty of sports teams that are not tied with the schools. If my son wants to play football (which really isn't that popular where I live--soccer's far more popular), then he'll be able to play football.

Fourth, there are other ways to develop confidence.

Fifth, I hope to God my son never joins a frat and that homeschooling him will give him a confidence and mature sense that will encourage him to never engage in the high school activities described.

Answer 6

I dont think that they are completely cut off from the world. They probably go out to malls and hang out as normal kids do.

Answer 7

ya, that's true, high school is good for different types of social interactions based on your popularity or how well you make yourself stand out above the rest. it helps shape who you are or who you want to be in life. social interactions CAN give you self confidence if you allow it to. i guess it would be hard for a guy to get those kind of social interactions with other guys and girls because they're at home, not socializing with various students on an everyday basis

Answer 8

It's not like in "The Brothers Solomon", if that's what you think.

Answer 9

you know you are a stupid man one who thinks to get ahead you must do drugs and sleep around shame on you  my son is 14 I home school him and he gets plenty of social activities he is very popular and he doesnt have s*x and look for it  and help you in your life like how thinking your a jerk because some ho let you s***w her man what a mixed up guy you are!

Answer 10

Homeschooled boys can find girls the same places schooled boys do.  It's not like they live in a different world.  

I think what you a missing is the whole point of not going to public school.  You can see more of the world and meet more people and have more experiences when you don't have to spend so much time in school.  

You may be limited by the fact that you spent so much time in school, you think that homeschoolers spent that much time at home.  But, the truth is homeschoolers can go anywhere because they aren't trapped in school.  

BTW, not all public school boys have the experiences you suggest.  In fact, I would guess it's not the majority.

Answer 11

Well, you most certainly can't tell your son "c'mon kid, were going to find you a hooker err I mean a life partner." You CAN use your early-aged confidence to bolster his game and explain the birds and the bees to him through visual aids. You CAN NOT allow him to throw or attend a party and you supervise. You CAN take him to public outtings and observe how he reacts to girls his age. You CAN NOT go talk to the girls father and request his daughter's presents for a friday night social gathering.

You never should of home-schooled him. Bump-set-spike.

Answer 12

Those types of "social bonding experiences" are the type of experiences which homeschool parents are trying to protect their kids from.

Those are negative experiences which can mess up a life forever. They were not considered normal until about 30 years ago, and those generations who did not have those experiences also had lower teen suicide rates, teen pregnancy rates, and divorce rates. There are better ways to gain confidence.

As for sports, homeschooling groups, church teams, and community organizations offer similar activities.

Answer 13

You don't mean to be crude? Your "v-card"? Ha.

Well, I don't mean to be rude, but it sounds like you are not quite grown up. Please remember this question when you do. Remember to ask this of your girlfriends and fiance. Ask it of your future in-laws. Ask your mom. Ask yourself again when you hold your baby for the first time. Ask yourself when your daughter is about to go on her first date. Ask yourself if you want her to be a cheerleader who takes a football stud's "v-card."

Then and perhaps only then, will you understand how shocking, crude and offensive this question really is.

Answer 14

Two options:

Either send him to public school so he can take after his pops, or but him a hooker and dress her up as a cheerleader.

Hope this helps.

Answer 15

Please don't have children

Answer 16

Online, duh!