How do husbands and wives that work in the same building deal with jealousy?

Question

might be long, please bare with me~

~* and please spare me the grow up and get over it comments, i'm not asking my question or telling my story to be criticized

my husband works in a grocery store and i work at the coffee shop inside of it. i work in a small area and my husband is in almost every department. we were in an argument lately because i said he spends more time with his coworker Connor than he does me. we don't get scheduled together often and when we do work the same shift this guy ALWAYS is trying to take his break with us and he follows my husband around like a little lonely lap dog. I've asked my husband to try and sneak away from him and he does but then he finds us and sits down next to us. Note- im not jealous over Connor but he is an example of this chick in the same department, i have noticed she keeps trying to take her break the same time as my husband and is running to him over the easiest questions. i know my husband is faithful and she is too ugly (not his type) so i know i shouldn't feel jealous but i do and i don't know how to make it stop. and for females because you would understand this- you know how a chick gives you that dirty look, for guys- it's the hater look, well some of the females give me that look all the time, like *why does she get to have a cute strong hard working man and i can't have him* or *what does he see in her?* kind of looks. it pi$$e$ me off. and i don't want to work anywhere else because i like "my" coworkers and if i didn't work there i would never get to see him except for when we sleep.

-if anyone is in the same or similar situation, how do you deal with the jealousy? or if you don't get jealous- why not?

Answer 1

I totally agree with Manda! You know that your husband loves you and knows that he is faithful! Then make them other b*tches jealous instead of you being the jealous one!

Answer 2

As human being we are very territorial.

specially when come to relationship. What my is mine and i will not share. Be best if you do not look, touch, or even breathing on him/her.

Jealousy to one another is nor mall with every one of us. We love and we like to keep to our self. We happen to grow fear, fear that we may lost the one we love so we become very jealous and protect.

It is natural to see the husband become unhappy when he see wife be too friendly with other guy. Wife also do the same.

Be as a couple you better have good reason why you come home late or sneak out of the house  early

Answer 3

My husband works for IBM in the IT field.

I wouldn't marry someone that works in a grocery store.

I'm too shallow.  I like money too much.

Answer 4

I am not sure.  My husband and I worked together for a short time before we were married and in college.  I did not feel much jealousy unless an attractive woman came in and he was friendly to her ( he is naturally a very friendly person).  I only know of one couple that works together (both teachers).  I do not know them well enough to know anything other than what I see, but they both seem very professional.

I would take it as flattery.  She likes what you have and you trust your husband and do not feel threatened by her.  Unless she is being unprofessional, I wouldn't say anything.  Perhaps he can ignore her a bit, give her quick simple answers and avoid her during break.

Answer 5

Yea I know how it is to be jealous. I've been dealing with it myself. But I think girls do it on purpose just to get you mad. It seems I get lots more attention when I'm with my girl. Don't let them know it bothers you and maybe it'll stop.

Answer 6

honestly? work somewhere else...I cannot imagine working with my husband.  I love him more than life itself, but if I had to spend that much time with ANYONE I would go batty.  Work time gives us a chance to be who we are, not necessarily who we are as a couple.  I would truly work somewhere else.

Good luck!

Answer 7

Think of it this way hun, there jealous of you, because you have a good man. If you two are strong it shouldn't matter. Cuddle up to him infornt of the dirty look b-tches, and give your look back, you know he's yours.  

Answer 8

My boyfriend and I work together, share the same cubicle at the moment as well.  He's very attractive and there are a few girls that do tend to flirt with him..at first I got pretty jealous but now I can just laugh it off.  In a way I'm pretty flattered that other women want my man..means I have a good one.  I trust him completely and I know he wouldn't do anything.  Those girls can flirt all they want I know who he is coming home with tonight and thats all that matters :)

Answer 9

I won't tell you to grow-up but I will tell you that jealousy is often caused by insecurity & low self esteem.  Your insecurity / low self esteem than causes you to imagine all kinds of situations / fears that aren't justified.

Answer 10

first off, not to make you "jealous", but i am so glad my fiance is an attorney, and "we" will be working at home together.  lol.

serioulsy, i know what you mean though, some women, "chicks" as you say are pathetic, they cant find their own man, so they gotta mess with yours. Heres what I would do, short of "politely" (the first time!), saying "find your own guy"...............Next time you see them together....(oh and forget connor, hes a guy, be happy your husband is getting his "male bonding' at work, instead of after work!!),,,,,,,,,When you see a girl with him....Just excuse yourself for the bathroom or whatever and walk over to your husband, give him a big hug..(if a kiss is not allowed at work)...and whisper something really s**y in his ear, to make him laugh or blush or something.  Or maybe "jokingly" say, "why are you always around my husband??"...

I'm not sure what will work, but if nothing else, give your husband a glimpse of what he looks like , by taking your break with "joe" , youre own co worker, ....

i think the worst thing you can do is show the jealousy, in fact you should show the opposite, ...it lets these pathetic chicks, see how confident you are with your man. good luck