How do i approach my mom for dance classes?

Question

my mom usually says a straightforward "yes", or "no". she doesn't leave room for negotiating, and when i start to explain why i want something, it usually results in my shouting/getting teary eyed.

i want a private class, but group classes are inexpensiver, but the girls in them are a bit s****. and better at dance than me, even the younger ones, which makes it a lot worse.

please help me, i am stuck in a dance bubble :(

thank you so much.

Answer 1

Here's a thought:  try writing your request instead of asking her face-to-face.  First try to think it through so you can put some reasons in your note as to why you think this is a good idea (or you need it, you would benefit from it).

Some things that dancing well can do for you: increase your self-confidence and poise (I took dance classes for six years as a child and I'm convinced that has a lot to do with the fact that I am not afraid to talk or be in front of groups....a big asset in the world of work!). It's also good exercise and will help keep you healthy and fit.

A couple of reasons why writing is better than asking her to her face: it will automatically show her that this is something you're serious about (not just the next thing you want her to spend money on for you).  Also it will enable her to think about it WITHOUT giving you an immediate answer.  She'll be able to think about your reasons and, hopefully, she'll come to the realization that this is a good idea.

Try leaving the note where she will find it but read it when you're not around.  Then, later that day or the next day, ask her if she got & read your note and if she'd like to talk about it.  Work your way up to the request, and try to keep calm in the process.

I have two children (a teen and a young adult) and this works well with me.  When I see that the idea is well thought out and that he's serious about it and I have a little time to think about it without him being "in my face" waiting for an immediate response, I'm much more likely to say "yes."

Good luck!

Answer 2

try to ask your mom about private lessons, but if she says no than don't worry its not the end of the world. I prefer group lessons because i always have someone to look up to. Like i want to be as good as them. When your by yourself you only have yourself to challenge against, but when you see someone else, you can set a goal to be as advanced. Thats how i have been improving, cause at the end of every year i always reach the goal of being as advance as the most advanced dancer. And ignore the s****. girls! your there to get better and love to dance! and you see one day you will be better than them!

Answer 3

From my experience (and I've been dancing for 30 years), group  classes are a means to be a part of a community and less about learning dance.  If you are truly serious about dance then private lessons  can be more  effect - the teacher  is concentrating on you, period.  If you really think about it group classes can  cost more -  you are paying money to NOT  learn if you don't pick up the steps.

Here is what I suggest: argue  that you need 10 private lessons so that you get up to speed, and then follow  with group classes.  That is a compromise that I am sure  your mother could live with.

*and  point of grammar - group classes are less expensive*