How do i ask my wedding guests for the cash as a gift?

Question

Me and my partner would much rather have the cash to pay for our honeymoon.

Do you know a polite way of asking for the cash?

I was planning on putting it in a slip inside the invitation, but what do I say?

Answer 1

I'm not sure how you are with words, but it would be kind of cute to make up a little poem to put in the invitations, i was thinking of doing th same thing for my wedding (some day).  And just explain in the little poem that you'd rather have a fun memory together than a toaster .. play on words and make it sound neater than that, but that gives you an idea.  

Answer 2

There is NO polite way to ask for cash. There are a lot of tacky ways, so if you don't care about being tacky, you can say whatever you please.

But if you really want to be polite and classy, you will not indicate anywhere on your invitation that you want cash. No matter how sweetly you phrase it, you will come across as greedy and rude.

I know that's not the answer you want, but it's the truth. Your guests aren't a source of income - you need to plan a honeymoon that you can afford.

Answer 3

You don't.  Better to not assume you'll receive any gifts.  Too many brides get resentful or presumptuous about the gifts they think they could receive.  Choose your guests so that you're surrounded by only those you couldn't be without.  Have a small, intimate wedding, and use the money you save on the guest list to take that honeymoon.

Answer 4

You NEVER mention gifts or regisitries on a wedding invitation.  

Asking for cash is very popular now.  you can make a wedding website and make a commnet on there, you can use word of mouth and tell people and you can also do this

http://mag.weddingcentral.com.au/wedding...

Answer 5

its really rude to do that! i dont even think i would go to somebodys wedding if i got that in the invitation! people will give you money anyway and if they dont you could always sell the things you get. i really dont think you should ask for money.

and not everybody has got the money to pay for your honeymoon! they are coming to help you celebrate your happy day, not to pay for it! i wouldnt be surprized if you had a lot of emmpty spaces if you asked people for money. what a cheek!

Answer 6

When i got married I have taken the initiative of including the news in the invites. You can choose to say, “Cash gifts are appreciated” or be bold with “No household gifts please, cash is better!”

Answer 7

They are guests, not customers. How dare you ask them for money, just be grateful for any gifts they may give you if they decide to attend.

It's incredibly rude to ask for any gift - let alone money. It also makes you look greedy, grabbing and mercenary and relegates your 'loved' ones to cash machine status.

Nasty.

Answer 8

NO to the invitation. Getting a gift is just that - a gift. IF you're putting a slip inside of the invititation, you're going to look greedy.

1) Make a website and include that

2) Have key family members pass the word

I would still register for select items you need, but don't be too surprised when people don't give you money.  

Answer 9

YES ASK FOR CASH, MY FRIENDS WEDDING IS SOON AND INSIDE THE INVITATION THEY PUT A SEPARATE PEICE OF PAPER WITH A POEM ....

THIS INVITES YOU TO WITNESS

..... & ..... SAY "I DO"

IF YOU WISH TO GIVE SOMETHING

WELL HERE IS A CLUE...

BE IT A KETTLE OR A TOASTER

THEY DO HAVE THE LOT

SO RATHER THAN GET THEM

SOMETHING THEY HAVE GOT

LARGER ITEMS ARE NEEDE

AND ON THESE THEY MUST SPEND

SO CASH IS APPRECIATED

WE HOPE THIS DOESNT OFFEND

HOPE THIS HELPS

Answer 10

You don't.  That would be really rude and tacky.  You can't tell people what to give you.  You should already have money put aside for the honeymoon and not depend on the money you get from your wedding.  If that was in an invitation I received I would purposely not give cash.  Most people will give you cash anyway.  Just be happy with whatever you get.

Answer 11

Don't do it- most people will give you cash anyways!  People who can't afford it will give you a gift.  We only recieved like 5 gifts out of 53 cards!  Most people like giving cash because it's easy to carry- you don't have to ask, most people know.

Answer 12

They are commonly called a wishing well wedding, last one I was at had a large vase on a table where people placed cards, to be very honest I think it always ends in disappointment, family will give money if thats what you want but better to let people do what they want.

Answer 13

There is no polite way to ask for cash. Period. People can choose to give you a cash gift, but there's no way to directly ask for it without being rude.

If you put slips in the invitation, some people who might otherwise have given you a gift (cash or otherwise) will be offended, and they may respond by either not getting you a gift or getting a smaller gift than originally planned.

Really, the only way to get cash without directly being rude is to (quietly!) exchange some of the gifts that you don't need for your home. If you do this, be prepared to explain yourself if the gift-giver asks you how you're enjoying what they got for you.  

Answer 14

You generally don't ask for cash.  If you do, it should be for a specific home project, not for the honeymoon.  If you can't afford one yet, you should consider downscaling your plans, or asking parents to help.

Answer 15

Don't put anything in the invitation, its very rude. If you really want money just mention it to both sets of parents, the best man and bridesmaids. Then if anyone asks about a gift they can mention that you would welcome a contribution to your honey moon fund.

Answer 16

Don't ask for anything then guests will ask you what you would like. Sounds like a job for the best man and bridesmaid. You should be ok asking for money, it's much less hassle for the guests. Or just ask for money from the people you know well.

Answer 17

There is no polite way to be tacky, and that's what asking for cash is...tacky.

Why not just shake down the guests as they arrive...?

If you can't pay for your honeymoon, postpone it..don't ask your guests to foot the bill for it.

Answer 18

You don't.

If you don't register you will get mostly cash anyways without having to appearing rude. You will likely get a few "boxed" gifts anyways, but that is how gifts work, you don't get to choose.

Answer 19

You don't ever ask your guests for cash instead of gifts.

What my husband and I did was simply not register anywhere.  The word will get around on its own.  My husband and I are living with his parents until we can get our own house, so although we need a lot of stuff, we #1 have no idea what style we want and #2 have nowhere to put all our stuff.  So cash gifts was the easiest for our guests to bring and they all knew that.  Also, by not registering they didn't know what we would like, so cash was easier on them too.

Answer 20

Firstly.... your gonna get a lot of people on here saying that it's rude and not to do it !!!! i say DO IT !!!!!!! at the end of the day, seriously, why would you want 2 blenders, 4 salt and pepper sets and a really ugly jug from aunt mabel???????????

It's NOT rude, before every one gets on there high horses, in this day and age a couple can do what they like at THEIR wedding!!!!!!

Here's an idea hun:

‘Your presence at our wedding is gift enough but if you do wish to buy us a gift, a contribution towards our dream honeymoon would be greatly appreciated.' Have a look at our website and contact me directly if you need more info." ............................

Hope this helps good luck on your wedding day x

Answer 21

You could say:

"We  have been blessed with all the necessary things for our life together but we do plan on a lovely honeymoon to be a special part of our life together.  Right now it is still a dream, but hopefully it will become the private celebration of our life as husband and wife."

Believe me they will all read between the lines.  You will get the usual gifts and be gracious when you do but also cash will be coming.  

Answer 22

why don't you register for a honeymoon? i;ve heard of people doing this and guests can buy you different excursions or dinner or something.

not that i think it is entirely appropriate. but it's more appropriate than asking for money in the invitation. a couple is not entitled to gifts simply because they are getting married...nor are guests obligated to give a gift simply because they are invited.

have a honeymoon you can afford. save up, and then take a longer vacation later. but don't rely on your guests to fund your trip (or your wedding, for that matter).

Answer 23

There no polite way to do this. Putting anything regarding gifts on the invitation is rude, but asking for money is the worst. The people you are inviting are guests (maybe you should look the meaning of that word up) and are not required to give you anything - they are certainly not required to fund your wedding/honeymoon!

If you can't afford to go on a honeymoon, then save up and go on one later.  

Answer 24

Are you sending invitations or invoices?

Ughh. How tacky

The honeymoon is your responsabily, not your guests'.

Sorry, there is no polite way of panhandling. That is so low class.

Good luck

Answer 25

Strictly speaking, wedding gifts are not required, so it's rude to ask for them.  The best thing to do would be to let your close friends and family know that you prefer cash gifts.  That way, when other people ask your family/friends what you and your partner want for a gift, they can say that you want cash for your honeymoon.

Answer 26

My husband and I did this. We got married at 26 so we each had complete household items which we combined and really didn't need anything else that is traditional wedding gift stuff.

I put a note in the invitation that joining us on our special day was as much a gift as we wanted, but if you feel it necessary to give us a gift cash to help us fund our cross country move would be greatly appreciated since we already have just about everything for our home.

Again your presence to help us share out love is all the gift we truly want.

No one seemed to be offended by the message, and we got just what we needed.  

Answer 27

My friends opened a bank account that the guests had a choice whether they could pay into it or not and i think they included the details on the invites,I think they also had a gift list registered somehwere else. It may be considered rude by some people but at the same time its quite often frustrating trying to think of what to buy people for a wedding, so making a cash donation relieves this frustration and makes sure that you dont end up with a load of unwanted stuff. another of my friends recently had an engagement party and it said on their invite, something along the lines of 'we are not expecting any gifts but if you do want to buy something then we would like vouchers'. As long as you put it in a tactful almost jokey way I dont see anything wrong with it atleast then you get something you want, it is after all YOUR wedding day!  

Answer 28

I dont think you can ask for money, as it is rude.  Just let your parents and bridesmaid and bestman know that is what you would like and leave it to them to tell the guests that ask and be grateful to those people that buy you a gift.

My sister got married in Vegas (we are in the UK) so not many people went and there was no mention of presents on the wedding invite, and no gift list and she ended up with over £250 of gift vouchers and £300 cash.  Not bad when nothing was mentioned about gifts on the invite.  The guests used their initiative!

Answer 29

I know how to do this!!!

You should write something like 'Having you as our guest is all the gift we need, however if you feel that you do want to give us a gift we would ask that you give us money for our savings/honeymoon'

It's not asking but it shows what you want. I'll be doing this myself. I think it's a h**l of a lot less rude than just putting a gift list in an invitation because it gives people the choice not to give you anything if they are mean.

I hope you sift through the c**p answers to get this far!

Answer 30

You DON'T ask for cash as a gift--not in a cutesy poem, not in a little slip inside an invitation...NOTHING!

Come on--this is asked everyday and everyday people are told how rude it is.  If you cannot pay for your honeymoon, then scale it down or don't take one.  You should not depend on your guests to finance it for you...as a guest one is delighted to be part of a special day, however, as a guest if one is told that all presents should only be in cash you bet many are going to end up giving you lighter envelopes.  It's rude and ungrateful and makes it all look like you can't afford your wedding or you are just out to make money off of something that is supposed to be special.

Answer 31

my fiance and i are going through the same thing, we have been living together for 4 years and have a 1yr old son so dont really need anything but could do with cash to pay of the debt!! we wrote a poem on the back of the invite explaining we were having a wishing well and would prefer monetry gifts. i did think it was rude, but they are our family and they understand! good luck