How do i break it too my parents i am pregnant?

Question

I am 27 and i just got out of a long term relationship with a guy who i was with for 3 yrs so there first response will be is it his which it isn't. the baby is my best friends and he doesn't know that iam pregnant or that i am with child my mom will know as soon i say we need to talk. They are very old fashioned and the first word out of their mouth will be marriage which i know i am not ready for and i dont want to rush. My mom will be concerned for my job since i am a teacher and will be afraid ill get fired since i am single and pregnant. my parents aren't the biggest fans of me living with my best friend since hes a guy and they consider that living in sin and he will tell them to back off and this is my life and they hate being told what is. i am pretty sure they are going to freak out. i need help

Answer 1

I too thought that you would say you were 15 or something.  Well, at 27, you should tell the father of the child first.  Discuss plans with him.  Then let your parents know.  I'd be straight out with the parents and say 'so and so and i are going to have a baby.'  when your parents bring up marraige state that you and so and so discussed it and decided 'insert whatever it is you decided here'.

as far as jobs go...there are lots of single mothers and fathers working....you should not get fired.  i think it is illegal to fire someone in the U.S. for being pregnant.

Answer 2

1. you are 27 and an adult, your parents have no say about getting married etc

2. you cannot get fired for being single and pregnant if you live in most 1st world countries

3. you need to tell your best friend

4. if you are not ready for this baby consider giving him/her up for adoption

5. no birth control is failure proof

6. you write like you are 15 years old and not a teacher.

Answer 3

Tell the dad first!

Your parents are going to ask about the father, so you might as well be able to report his reaction. At 27 this is more about you, the father, and your child then it is about your parents.

I think people will be more supportive then you are giving them credit for. A child is a wonderful thing, and 27 years old certainly isn't too young to be having children. Sometime the timing isn't perfect, you adjust.

Daycare is $125 a week. Even a single teacher should be able to swing that much if you budget well. I always thought having children was terrifying until I became a nanny. Yes its a full time commitment, but a very doable one!

Answer 4

Your parents will be right that you are living in sin and that is not an old fashion saying.  Parents did not make it up.  God said it is a sin.  

However, it really doesn't matter what your parents think, your are an adult and free to make your own choices.

You are going to have a precious baby of your very own.  What ever happened or what ever anyone says about it, it is not the baby's fault so everyone will love him/her.

You under stand that you will have some explaining to do when the child gets older and starts asking questions.  I think your are right in not marrying anyone until you are ready.   The best marriages are when you marry a best friend, it is not just all about s*x but you really like each other.  A lot of people get married for the wrong reasons.   They just enjoy having s*x and think that is love and they may very well love each other but may not like each other.  You really need to like the person you marry.  

I wish you the best.  Just tell your parents like it is that you are having your best friends baby.

Blessing  

Answer 5

Sorry to burst your bubble, dear, but this isn't a "miracle" pregnancy.  Condoms break and pills aren't fool-proof.  The only 100% safe way to prevent pregnancy is abstinence - if you had been chaste when you got pregnant, then *that* would be a miracle.  This is just a rare occurence.

Yes, they are going to freak out.  That's okay.  Give them some time to adjust to the idea.  Let them rant and lecture - just stay calm and keep bringing the conversation back to the important point - you are going to the make the best out of an unplanned situation.  Stay focused on the positive - this child could be a blessing in your life.  Your school cannot fire you for being single and pregnant - you are protected by law (it might help to have a copy of that law to show your mother as proof).  

Your parents will be upset at first, but eventually the allure of a grandbaby will win them over.

You also need to talk with your roommate and get some sort of formal agreement signed.  This is his child too, and he has a financial and emotional responsibility to this child.  You need to work out how he will help care for the child, both now and in the future.  Will he be raising the child or just setting up a trust fund?

Answer 6

Sweetie, you are at an age where they shouldn't really be treating you like that, you shouldn't have all that parent drama in your life anymore.  You're old enough to move out, I don't get if you already live with your best friend or not.  And why were you having unprotected s*x in the first place, was it that you did want to get pregnant? maybe that was your goal, to have a baby at this time of your life.  Well, your parents will have to deal with it, and I think after all is said and done they will be so happy to become Grandparents.  A newborn baby is so hard to not love, actually, make that impossible not to love.  They are going to enjoy this baby and learn to see you as the adult that you are.

Congratulations!!!

Answer 7

The old saying YOU PLAY YOU PAY. No easy way in telling them. The up side is that you are a grown woman and not a 17 year old kid. Here in Indiana there have been a lot of single, pregnant teachers. We have teachers living together, teachers dating high school kids. I wouldn't worry about it. Your a big girl now. I know it is going to hurt your parents and realize where you are coming from on that. But let me tell there are far worse things that you could be telling them. And that is that you are dying with cancer. My cousins daughter turned 16 in March and she has cancer and don't you think they would have rather heard she was pregnant? Hopefully your folks will realize that. Good Luck to you

Answer 8

I thought that you were going to say that you were 15 or something. Well its a start that your 27. I think that you are old enough to make your own decisions. Are you at all dependent on your parents? You need to first tell your friend that you are pregnant and than see his view on it. After that make sure that he supports you, and if he doesn't than you need to do something else and find a new place. If he does support you than you need to decide what you want to do. Will he marry you? If not than you both need to agree that you need to tell your parents. Tell them you have something important to tell them and let them know that you are an adult and that you are with child. Let them know that regardless that you are having the baby and will raise it. My thinking is that once they lay their eyes on him and her than they will be so happy but you have to be secure in the fact that if you have to raise it alone, you can.