How do i convince my husband we can keep the baby ?

Question

Hello i am a 23 y old married for3 years now to a wonderful 36y old male .(Before you judge our age difference,know that it doesnt matter to any of us because neither of us would ve chosen to be together if we felt we werent for each other) life has been really good for us and we were blessed on june07 by a sweet baby girl. I am a responsible female but when i had my daughter i started shopping for her like crazy and werent really keeping up with our bills . i was in charge of that and my husband was the one with the mortgage, the cars and the insurances. unluckily our daughter has becomed so sick back in january that i had to quit my job to stay home and care for her . My husband found out that i was so past due on all our bills to the point that it was either we pay it now or we wouldnt have services for anything . he inventually had to use all of his savings to pay those.since then life is tight . 2weeks ago we found out i was prego.i really want to keep it ,he said no.

Answer 1

Tell your husband that your baby is not a stray kitten you found on the street, but a human being you conceived together.

I don't know, there's no way my husband could ever make me give up a child that I was pregnant with.

Why don't you sell things on ebay?  You're not in dire need until you've sold everything in your house that you don't need. And have him have control of the credit and debit cards.  Don't go shopping without him. You also relinquish all financial responsibility to your husband.

This is how we survive on one salary:  we have one car, one cell phone that doubles as our home phone, we don't take vacations, we don't splurge on things, we dont' buy clothes when we don't need them (and need is a relative term- they can be faded and outdated but still work), and I sew and sell historical clothing on ebay.

Breastfeed too.  That prevents illness, and you don't have to pay for formula.

Answer 2

Make plans to see financial advisor who will teach you how to manage your money. Your husband will see that you are taking this very seriously.

Answer 3

He can't make you give the baby up to begin with and something wrong with a husband trying to make you give up a child you conceived together anyway. Last I checked it takes 2 to tango and for this to happen...if he didn't want it to then he should have used protection to prevent this from happening. Sell what you can that you splurged on all that time..I'm also a big splurger on my kids however I am a bargain guru so I almost always get back what I paid for it when I resell. ou can sell things on online garage sale yahoo groups, ebay, or craigslist.

Answer 4

just tell him how important this is too you and how you can keep it. and even though things are thight this will help both of you to keep going. if you want this baby hun go 4 it.. money always sorts itself out in the end

Answer 5

It is possible to make it on one income.  There are four of us my family and my husband is the only one that works.  Sit down with hubby and figure out where you can cut corners.  Then I would take it from there.  Unfortunately there is no one way to convince him.  Good luck to you though.

Answer 6

This is your baby, the way I see it is, the h**l I will give up my baby. I will first get rid of him then my own flesh and blood

Answer 7

A baby is not a choice. There should be no discussion what so ever about that! If you two really decide not to raise the child at least put him/her up for adoption for someone who is unfortunately unable to conceive. And who would appreciate the love of a child.

Answer 8

I am sorry to hear that your daughter became sick and that you had to quit your job and your finances went to heck.  Money problems are only temporary, things will work themselves out.  Maybe you could work at night to help things along.

In terms of your current pregnancy, if money is the reason why your husband wants you to have  an abortion that is rather messed up to say the least, and should make you question the whole relationship.  If you want to keep your baby, talk to a crisis pregnancy center, they could help you by giving you stuff  like diapers, formula, clothes, toys for your baby and food  to help you.

Answer 9

hello have him to watch this

abortionno.org

and tell him there is no way that you can do this to your baby this should change his mind

Answer 10

Wow..Tuff question...I think wat you should do is decide for yourself on wat you want to do as for as keepin your baby..If you want to keep it than do so..dont have an abortion just because your husband says so..having an abortion  is a serious decision and its something that follows you for the rest of your life.  if you do decide that thats the way you wanna go make sure is becuz of what you want. You know in your heart wat the best thing  to do so all you gotta do is listen to it.  

take care,

          sharee

Answer 11

Wow, perhaps you need to go back to work maybe see if you qualify for government aid. Show that you are going to help with bills and maybe he'll change his mind.