How do i convince my mom to...... ?!?!?!?

Question

convince my mom i can date??

i'm 13. and she wants me to wait till like 16 and i feel to bad to sneak behind her back and like, "go out" or kiss guys.

i have to turn down guys all the time and lose guy friends over this!

all my friends do it like it's 2nd nature.. and i want to too!

and it's not just that sometimes.. i reaaaallly, trrruully, like this guy. and end up hurting him, and crying later!

she's constantly saying how mature i am for my age! yet she treats me like a baby!

and don't tell me i'm too young, i hear it enough!

!!PLEASE!!HELP!!

Answer 1

Just tell your mum what you told us. That you don't want to go behind her back and would prefer to be in a situation where you can be honest about what is happening. If she still says no remember that she is only trying to protect you  

Answer 2

just explain to your mum that you don't want to go behind her back, tell her your sensible and your not going to be having s*x. also tell her that by experiencing a relationship now, you are preparing yourself for an emotional relationship when you are older. explain that your not going to get yourself into anything serious or sexual yet, you just feel your ready to experience relationships with guys, and by doing this now it'll help you learn more about a "guys nature" so you won't be too unprepared or won't know what to expect in a relationship when you are older, by having one now.

if you feel ready for dating, then you should go and do it. its your decision, not your mums. but just be sensible.

Answer 3

You are too young. Your 13 year old self and your 16 year old self are two completely different people. Even your 16 year old self is completely different than your adult self.

So, there's no point in dating that young. I'm sorry, but it won't last. If you loose your friends because you don't want to date them, they weren't really your friends.

Don't be a 13 year old w***e like so many are becoming. You can have guy friends, but a serious boyfriend is out of your league.

Sorry to side with your mom. I know this isn't what you wanted to hear, but it's true.

Answer 4

well you dont want to hear you are to young but obviously your mom thinks you are and those are her rules. Sorry to say hunny but  you think its ok to go behind your moms back and do whatever you want anyways so you clearly have no respect for her or her rules soooo why do you need help convicing it seems your mind is made up.

P.S. parents tell you not to do things because they are repsonsible for you any anything you produce while under the age of 18 sooo listen ok

Answer 5

maybe she's just uncomfortable with you going out alone with a boy.  you could suggest a double or group date with some of your friends.  then you can date, but still have your mom feel like you are safe.  she's just trying to protect you, but i understand where you're coming from.  

Answer 6

If you loose guy friends because you aren't allowed to date, they aren't people you want to be with.

At 16 the boys will be more mature.

Answer 7

i doubt at your age that you can convince any parent to let you go.  16 is the accepted norm.. she clearly doesnt wwant you to gt hurt  or taken advantage of

Answer 8

umm...maybe you do want to wait because it is common that parents that are strict have daughter that sneak around and get themselvesinto things that girls that have more freedom don't...so i think that you should just be honest w/ your mom. i know it sounds crazy but my mom said the same thing to me and i told her that i liked a boy and that i went out with some one and she accepted that and now she trusts me and i can be open to her about anything...try it !...though im 15 so... ha. but when i told her that i had a BF i was 14 =]

Answer 9

You are too young. If you really can't wait until you're sixteen, then ask her to lower the age to 15. Despite your good qualities and achievements, everybody makes mistakes without thinking at times, and that includes you. She's only trying to protect you. Don't be so eager to start dating. Lastly, if those guy friends of yours stop being your friends simply because you turn them down, they were NEVER good enough for you in the first place, so forget about them.  

Answer 10

If you have to whine about it, you are not mature enough to date.  Why are you wanting to kiss boys?  Seriously, you are setting yourself up for a whole heap of trouble.  You'll thank your mom later.  And, should you sneak behind her back, she will find out!

Answer 11

Just talk to her about it!!!

Answer 12

im ur age and i know how u feel. talk to her, she must have a good reason why u cant date, she just wants to keep u safe. wait till ur 14 and then u ask again, my mom said 17 at first and then i started acting more responsible and she said i can date when i am 14, it still sucks but she wants whats best for me. just talk to her. get good grades and help her a lot for her to see how responsible u r...

Answer 13

16 is the perfect age wether u like it or not you r exiting you iinsecure years and u start making goals. and yes u r way 2 young to start  dating and u just wanna do it cuz your friends r doing it. its not gonna help u out socially u know.

Answer 14

you are too young!! 16 is the perfect age! but in th mean time.... just tell your mom you're going out with "friends" hint the word friends! good luck!

Answer 15

Just talk to you mom dude!!Try an have an open relationship with her.