How do i convince my parents ...?

Question

i am 16 and am a junior

my parents make me go to bed at 10 p.m.

i have alot of advance placement (college classes) and honors classes and that means i have alot of homework

and im gonna be having a job and playing soccer

i need a later bed time so that i can do my homework because during soccer sseason this is how its gonna b most times

school ends 2.50

soccer ends 4.30

go to work 5. go home 9.30

so that would only give me 30 mins to do homework and i need more time then that

how is a way that i can convince them to let me have a later bed timea dn wat time should i ask for?

Answer 1

Hi, i think that you are way too busy, maybe you could do less days at work. do you really need to work every night? but all that aside, then as someone else has said, lay it down carefully for your parents and ask them to help you find a solution. maybe you could ask for an extension until 10.30 as long as you do go to sleep. you really do need the sleep as it sounds as though if you don't get it, you will burn out very quickly.

Answer 2

I know exactly what you are talking about I also took AP classes, had a job and took dance after school, I know how hard it is to juggle of that, my parents didnt make me go to bed at a certain time but I would just tell your parents what you just wrote.

Answer 3

Unfortunately you have reached a point in your life where you have adult issues to deal with:  there are only 24 hours in a day, and 30 hours of daily activities to manage.

If you stay up later to get homework done, you will have a harder time getting up in the morning, which means you will be tired at school, which means your grades will suffer.  That means you will have a harder time getting into the college you want, which will impact your lifelong career and income goals.

I'd suggest either getting rid of the job, or cut back on hours.  If your job won't let you cut back on hours, then find another job that will.  Think about it:  you have literally 40-50 years worth of time as an adult that you will be working.  You will only have another 5-6 years of education (if you will be getting a bachelors degree), or maybe up to 10-12 more years (MS, PhD, etc.)  You have plenty of time left to earn an income, and little time left for your education.

As a kid (or young adult) you need to concentrate on your education more than anything else.

Answer 4

you sound pretty level headed, so im sure you will understand that with a day that starts probebly at 7am and ends at 9:30 not including homework, you need rest..You should get at least 8 hours of sleep a night.

You have a very busy schedual for a 16 year old, and im not sure if a job is the best for you right now on such a busy time frame. could you do part time to start untill you get a routine going for yourself. School is more important then gas for your car at this point so do what you feel you need to do, but get the rest you need so you dont burn yourself out.

Answer 5

ok...so you need a job because you need to put gas in the car your parents AREN'T buying you UNTIL you get a job?  That sounds like a circle.  And you are only getting a job b/c you WANT a car.  So...just get a job working on the weekends only.  It's not a good idea to stay up later and do your homework last.  Just find a job working only on the weekends.  You don't want to overload yourself b/c you will eventually wear yourself out.  You just have to figure out what is most important and do it.  Soccer is NOT manditory, but you like it.  So, as long as it doesn't conflict with your school work then do it, but if it does, you need to make necessary adjustments to your schedule.  School is the most important thing right now, just figure out how to get your  priorities in order and stick to a schedule.  

Answer 6

That is VERY strange that any parent would do that. Don't they know that you have homework? I would just tell them that "I have to do my homework." I can't imagine them having anything against you doing what you're supposed to be doing...not like you're out drinking.

Answer 7

just tell them what is happening and they should respect the fact that you need longer time to do your homework, good look at school and soccer, hope i helped, xx

Answer 8

As others have suggested, sit down with your parents and explain the whole situation to them. If you come across to them as clearly understanding the importance of school, soccer, work and getting enough rest hopefully they will reconsider your bedtime.

Good luck!

Answer 9

Can you get up in time in the mornings, for school ... without your parents having to call you or drag you out of bed?

And can you get along withy less hours of bedtime and sleep?

Maybe your folks should approve your time schedule, conditional on (1) you can still get up, on your own, in the mornings and (2) your grades don't slip.

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Answer 10

You have a lot on your plate! Sounds like you either need to cut out the job or the soccer. It really doesn't help when you are busy all the time like that. Work can be even more stressful, because you'll be too tired to do your homework when you get off.

Reconsider your activities. You need your sleep.

Answer 11

It sounds like you are a very responsible teenager.

Your parents want to be sure you get enough rest, but you have great points.  Sit down with your folks and lay out for them, CALMLY, just like you did here.

Good Luck

Answer 12

10 PM is already pretty late for a school night but if you're doing your homework then I doubt your parents can complain. Be ready for them to make you quit soccer or your job, though, it sounds like you have too much on your plate.

Answer 13

If you want to play soccer every single day, then you should cut your work hours. If gas money is more important, then cut out some of the days you play soccer. Life is a series of choices and you can't have everything.

You still need a later bedtime. At 16, midnight seems right to me. At least you could start negotiating for midnight and then settle on 11 pm as a compromise but you'll have to give up some work or soccer hours, too. Sorry, but that looks like your best bet for a solution to this.

Your parents said they'd get you a car if you got a job. They didn't say you had to work so many hours. Working 4 1/2 hours for 5 days a week buys more gas than you ought to need anyway.

Answer 14

This is kinda tough to answer. Because you do seem like a responsible and level-headed 16 year old.

My suggestion though would be to hold off on getting a job, since school should come first. OR talk to your parents about allowing you to stay up later because you'd like to get a job.

But staying up later may affect your performance in school and on the soccer field. You should keep that in mind.

Answer 15

sit them and talk to them. you a little too old to be going to bed at 10pm are you even tired? I would be straight forward with them and express to them how mature you and responsible you are. Homework is important. Tell them that you have time for it all its just that you need a later bed time to be able to complete your work which is very important to you.

And you are going to be a senior soon so therefore you need more liberty.

Answer 16

You really need 8 hours of sleep. Maybe get a job for the weekends instead of weekdays? If you're planning on taking weekends off, you still have like 22 hours a week, and even at minimum wage you're making $160 a week. I dunno where you're driving to, but I don't use that much gas in a month.