How do i convince my parents to let me have a horse?

Question

I am a pretty experianced rider, I ride EVERY tuesday and help ou around the barn. I love horses and know so much about them. I'm trying to save up money for my own, i currently have $170. I KNOW the costs of a horse, and how to take care of them, and everything. But, we would have to board it and my parents don't want to pay for monthly board and they aren;t even thinking about it. Should i just give up on wanting a horse cause iv'e wanted one now for a year and theres NO progress. My parents don't even want me leasing. They say that if they want me to have a horse they'd buy me one. But still, they won't give me an EXACT answer and its ticking me off. But yet sad at the same time. My dad told me straight out "NO" with no explination why, and it hurt so much. Pease help!

Answer 1

wy u want a horse scream wth

Answer 2

Keep saving your money, one day you'll have enough for your horse, and if by the time you've saved up enough money and you think you don't want a horse anymore, you can use the money towards something you want. A horse is a big responsibilty so maybe your parents don't think you'd be able to handle it, so prove to them that you are capable by helping out around the house and be cooperative with them, parents love that.

Answer 3

Maybe they're worried about your safety.  But if they know that you're good at it, then that's probably not it.  I think you need to talk to them at some time when you have their full attention.  Tell them you're not a child, and you think you deserve an explanation.  If they're bad parents, it might work.  If they're good parents, they'll just smack you in the mouth for talking like that, because you really don't have the right to an explanation at all.  It's their money, after all.  They work very hard to get that money, and then some little sapling tries to suck it all away, and then wants to know WHY you won't just pour the big bucks on them.

So you've got to see things from their perspective.  Imagine yourself with a child who wants a damned horse, and imagine all your hard-earned cash flying away according to your child's whims.

Now that you know how they feel, you can decide whether you still want to pursue this dream of yours.  If you do, there's an old tactic that has always worked in the past: Tell Dad Mom said it was okay, and then tell Mom Dad said it was okay.  Eh?

Good luck!

Answer 4

Listen to your parents and get real.  They can't afford it and you are obviously whinging on and driving them mad.  They probably feel bad enough already not being able to give you everything you want every time you stamp your little feet.  Just thank your lucky stars that you have been fortunate enough to have riding lessons.  Stop being so selfish and grow up.  There is plenty of time for you to have a  horse of your own when you are old enough to take proper responsibility for it.  In the meantime, give your poor parents a break.

Answer 5

it's not just money.

Do you drive?  Who would take you to look after it twice a day!

I'd give your parents a break.  Honestly.  They probably have enough to do allready.

I don't want to be mean, I'm just trying to be realistic.  Well done for saving, you could use it to go pony treking or similar

Answer 6

Maybe they are going to buy you one. I was begging for a hamster once, and my parents said no without a reason. Then, it ended up being my present! Don't get your hopes too high though. If it ends up that that is not the reason, I don't want you to be crushed. Good luck!  

Answer 7

Claire wtf? shes just asking for advice. If you thinks a bad idea just say its a bad idea you don't have to go make her out into some little baby who gets what she wants all the time. She's just being a kid who wants something I'm sure you've been in a similar position.

Answer 8

You don't give your age---so let me say that your attitude shows you are young and probably that is part of the issue--your parents probably see the whole live animal living and being taken care of by YOU---as a possible disaster. You cannot show much maturity by having the attitiude you exhibited in your letter---this NOT a car--it is a BIG living animal with many expensive needs that your family may not be able to afford---a Vet is just like any other "doctor"--hundreds of dollars for each visit----not close to that 170 dollars you claim to have saved up. Shoes and constant care are a reality--your parents see you more than we do--they know you are NOT prepared for horse ownership. You can get a pony when you are 18.....and on your own. Now accept the answer and stop hating your parents---it is not at all very attractive or mature. Good luck and enjoy riding when you can. It is better than no riding at all. My daughter will not even water the 2 she begged us for---I think it is time for the glue factory  

Answer 9

They probably can't afford it.  You're asking for a lot of money.  As you know, feed, housing and veterinary costs are very high, not to mention just the cost of purchasing a horse.

Answer 10

when you go riding.. that is nothing horses are SO MUCH responsibility

they get sick ALOT and often get wounded.. they cost THOUSANDS of dollars...

boarding horses is stupid

get a fish or something

and wait till you move

Answer 11

JoJo, what it comes down to is this...You may just have to wait on your horse till you are grown.  I know how it is to be a kid and be a parent.  Save your money for your dream horse and one day you will be able to have it.  Right now you have to answer to your parents, and we all know what that's like.  Being a kid is not always fair.  Life is not fair.  Not even when your grown.  But, while your living with your parents, as tough as that can be, it's their call on the horse.  And they say no.  I'm sorry, I do know how hard this is for you.  You hang in there and save for that horse of yours, ok...YOU will have it, no doubt.  Not just now.

Answer 12

id say just tell em u want it and if they dont then hide stuff like the remote, telephone and stuff till they give in

Answer 13

To be very responsible!!! And know how to be with it, feed it, brush it, care for it, ect;

Hope I  helped ♥

Answer 14

NO DONT EVER GIVE UP ITS A DREAM AND IT MAY HAPPEN ONE DAY SORRY BOUT THE CAPS

Answer 15

Well my parents have just bought me my first horse after years of begging.  I started by drawing pictures and writing stories about horses.I also said this( If you love me you would buy me a horse) That got my mom.Before i got a horse i loaned a small pony and when i grew out of i was so upset.my mom and dad saw that. so i had to get  this other horse. Even though i was upset. I thought of it like i am practicing looking after a horse.My mom saw that i did not enjoy this so she said yes! But my dad said Yes when you are 16 you are allowed a horse and a car so you dont have to get us to take you to see it. But i guess he doesent want one because he is alergic.My mom knew how much i wanted a horse so forced my dad to buy me a pony.But still NO.here is a list of ideas.                           1.Talk about getting a horse all the time     2. Tell your parents you love them every day  3.Watch horse movies all the time   4.Cover your room in pictures of horses.   5. help out at the barn as much as you can!6. Show your mom and dad how much responserbility you have.

    

After all this they said yes and i now have this lovely TB x welsh. HOPE YA LIKE EM AND GOOD LUCK!!!!!!!!

Answer 16

Well, you do get to ride one all the time, so at least you have that. Just think about it. What would you get out of it? Is it worth it? When you get a job and can pay for  at least half of it, then you could say your parents are being unreasonable. But if they're going to have to pay for everything, then they kind of do have the right to say no.  

Answer 17

o wow really? im 12 too, turning 13 soon! and i had the SAME problem. i was so mad cause my parents would NOT let me get the horse! and i wanted it so bad. i saved the money for one.. finally they gave in. in you case maybe you could try casually asking to go to an auction sale or somthing when you have enough money.. and whn you get there, if your a Daddy's gal like i am :P you will get the horse.  but if not, try a diff approach.. maybe try sitting them down and explaining to them! and show that you are responsible enough in every  way... one last qusetion tho! your talking about a barn your going to everyday? is that the boarding stables, im a bit confused.., o well good luck with things! and dont give up!!!!!!!

hope i helped.. and sorry your parents are being so tough! i know what its like!!!

Answer 18

I was in your boat a few years ago.  I am not deeming that you aren't fit to have a horse, because helping out at the barn and riding weekly makes you a very knowledgable horse person.  But you said you saved up to $170.00.  How long did that take you to save?  Do you have a job or any source of income?  Horses are pretty much money burners, for those who don't enjoy them or understand them (your parents for example) can find it a waste of time.  If money is not a problem for your parents, since they will have to pay for the board try to get them move involved with your horsie events.  Have them out to the barn, and maybe they can see the true joy these horses give you.  Parents are stubborn, with some time and persistiance things can go your way.

Answer 19

well it all depends is thre room maybe he just thinks you are not ready to take care of a horse my sister is the same way but a NO for my sister to so just ask him why if he tells you then prove to him that you can do whatever he said you cant do