How do i convince this guy he is the dad of my baby?

Question

I am only 15 but am pregnant. I has s*x 2 months ago with a 17 year old and he won't admit he is the father. He says i told him i was on birth control, but i truly really wasn't. He didn't wear a condum but said he pulled out, so it can't be his. My parants don't know yet, but how can I convince him that my baby is his too, and how can i tell my parants? Please help!

Answer 1

Are you positive you are pregnant? Did you go to a dr or take an at home test? If you haven't then you really should before you tell your parents. I would even take a second test just to be sure. Make sure you follow the directions exactly so you don't get a false report.

I really hope you aren't. Babies are wonderful but they are a lot of hard work and need so much time and attention. I'd love to see you have the chance to stay a teenager and have fun like you should.

I think you just need to go to your parents and tell them you are really in trouble and need their help. There really isn't a good way to tell them.

As for the boy, you can have a paternity test done after the baby is born. If he is determined to claim it isn't his then there isn't really a way to get him to realize it is other than that. He doesn't want to believe it.

I'm a mother of a teen and I'm going to give you advice because that is what moms do. Its better to not have s*x at your age. Deciding not to have s*x until you are old enough to support a child without help is the mature thing to do. Having s*x doesn't make anyone a grownup.

Not only is there the chance of pregnancy, there are all kinds of STDs out there and some are killers. Every time  you  have s*x with a person you are having s*x with every person they had s*x with and everyone they had s*x with. The risk is very high and some things such as AIDS don't show up immediately so he might have it and not know. Even one guy who was only with one girl before you could have a disease he got from her. If you continue to anyway, then never ever ever ever have s*x without using a latex condom and make sure you use it correctly even if you go on another form of birth control. Nothing is 100% safe but that will give you the best chances of being safe. You certainly don't need two babies or an STD.

Also, and this is very important. Never have s*x with any guy unless you are sure he would be a good father if you did end up pregnant. You don't need a jerk you can't depend on as the father to your child. You just found that out the hard way, I know.  

(((HUGS))) and prayers for you!

Answer 2

You'll have to wait for a paternity test.

It may seem unimaginable right now, but tell your parents as soon as possible.  They can take you to get the care that you and your baby need.  If this guy doesn't want to be involved, that's his loss.  Lot's of people your age deal with this everyday and it all ends up ok.  Life may be a struggle but when isn't it really?

You are both very young.  Unfortunately, the female is the one who gets stuck with the tough decisions.  You two knew this could happen but went for it anyway.  Hopefully he'll come around eventually.  He might be scared or nervous for his parents to find out too.  Next time get to know the character of the person you sleep with. Too many men are scumb bags but so many are not! And in some cases, some are just boys learning what it means to be a man.  It takes maturity on your side to find the good guys.



Either way get the test done and he'll need to be responsible if it is in fact his child.  Don't worry about what anyone else thinks.  There will always be people who will judge you.

You have to take it upon yourself to be an adult now and do what is right for your baby. Get the medical attention you need to have a strong healthy child.

I wish you the best. Take care of yourself!  

Answer 3

Have a paternity test done.

Tell your parents straight up, you will need their support, especially in the coming months.  

Answer 4

leave him alone and when the baby comes present him with a DNA test.  That is the only way you will be convince him and everyone else also.  

Just tell your parents because they are eventually going to find out anyway. You are going to need the best medical care. You have put yourself in an adult situation, now you have to act like and adult and not a 15 yr old girl.

Answer 5

ok first of all you shouldnt have had unprotected s*x in the first place and that guy that you said pulled out then says you said you were on birth control that just dosent make any sense. you should go to a doctor and get checked for stds ASAP well the only way to prove to him that he really is the father is to wait until you actually have the baby and get a dna test its a long process being pregnant and all i know but thats the only way you can really prove it to him... and well telling your parents is going to be even harder depending on how they react towards life changing things... the one thing teens dont understand that i do now is that when you have a baby at your age its just now you responsibility but your parents even more because you have no idea how much work it really is... just try to weight your options

Answer 6

Put his name on the birth certificate. After the baby is born you will need to file a paternity petiton through the court. Let him pay for the DNA test after all ,he is d**n lucky you aren't charging him with a crime seeing as you are so young.

Best of luck telling your parents, I hope they are supportive.

Answer 7

get dna testing get his parents involved and go to court hes pretty old to get a part time job and raise your kid ...tell your parents to just say im pregnant by _____..

Answer 8

Probably you can allege he is the daddy of that child. Perhaps you could get a court order for him to have DNA testing/matching.

Of course, also he bieng 17 an dyou only a 15 year old "child", maybe he could end up in jail or prison.

It sounds like it is about 10 years too late for your parents to be giving you proper training.

Babies, having babies!!!!!

Answer 9

U r 15!!! omg. what has this world come to. what were thinking trusting a 17 yr old when he was horny!?? wrong idea even getting in bed if u couldnt handle the consequences. And telling ur parents..? hmm idk. depends wat cullture u have..mine would kill me. im 19. I feel bad for the poor child. And especially for u. Now u have a HUGE responsibility at 15!!!! couldnt wait. i really feel bad. good luck with eveyrhting.  

Answer 10

Go to him as serious as you can and tell him you guys need to decide what you're gonna do about this baby. It will be better for both of you if you were still friends for the child's benefit. If he still want to act like a jerk then tell this fool he better start saving his money because child support enforcement agency will be tracking him down.

Answer 11

Sometimes a guy is in denial either because they are not ready for the responsiblity of a child, or they just really do not believe it is theirs. If he does not believe you when you tell him it is his, then the only other thing to do is tell him that you are willing to get a dna test when the baby is born, if you mention that option right there, that might even convince him maybe you are telling the truth if you are willing to do that, and if not the test will show him right there!

As far as telling your parents, This may sound stupid, but how i did it was in a text when my parents were away. One other thing i read you could do, is write a letter and give it to them, if you are too scared to confront them, then try doing that! My mom was very understanding, and knew i was just, if not more so, worried than they were! So let your parents know you need there support and help to get through it!  

Answer 12

this happens more often than what u think.. i wish u would have asked here in yahoo answers what we thought of u having s*x at such young age.. ..u were irresponsible but so was the guy u slept with.. not u have to both assume responsibilty for that unborn child.. ur parents wont be happy at all.. in some way u have let them down.. but hopefully they will understand and they will give u support..as far as the guy.. nothing u can do.. dna can prove it.. but till then u cant do much.. good luck

Answer 13

just b/c a guy "pulls out" doesn't mean that you cant still get pregnant.

i say tell your parents first, then to make 100% sure, get a DNA test ( btw i dont think the test is cheap) then, he'll have no excuse to say it isn't his. hes just doing that so he doesn't have to help you take care of your child.