How do i cope with 2 year old tantrums, and scratching?

Question

My 2 year old obviously has picked this up from daycare, shes recently started pinching and scratching me and my husband, also her grandparents. When she does it i dont know how to react, do i ignore it? tell her off and put her in her room? pinch her lightley back so she knows shes causing pain? Help im stuck!!

Answer 1

Lol, what an easy question to answer. I know this because it's exactly what my parents did when me and my sister (who are in highschool, never had behavioural or any other problems, never been suspended or anything like that, don't do drugs or smoke, and besides math, we both get good grades, just to let you all know) when we went through the terrible 2's stage. It's the magic word, it's only 5 letters. You're not required to remove anyones clothing for it, and you don't need any utensils for it, because the utensils are on the ends of your arms. It's the magic word called... spank! And the best part is, you don't have to swing too hard or too high, all you need is a hand and a misbehaving bottom. I just love all these parents who say "Well, hitting a child when they hit you just teaches them to hit." and "they're too young, they don't know what they're doing." We definitely knew when we were misbehaving at 2, and even 1 years of age, because we would look up sneakily to see if my parents were coming (my parents told me this) and if they did we would quickly drop what we were doing or run away, lol. I love both of my parents, I don't resent them at all. I always learned from my actions, no doubt about that. And if my parents had only put me in time out after I had just finished scratching them, kicking them or giving them a nice big bit on the arm, I would of given myself a pat on the back, a job well done, or in other words, I would of figured I'd gotten away with it. No, what I would do, if my kid did anything like that, and what my parents did, would be turn them around, give them a good couple smacks on the bum (hard too, not so hard you're leaving bruises obviously, but hard enough that it leaves a nice sting and a sore rump for a minute or two) then get down on their level and say in a calm but serious and loud (louder than I normally talk) tone of voice "YOU DO NOT DO THAT. DO YOU UNDERSTAND ME?" then you send them to their room, even if they're crying a bit. Of course they're crying, they just got in trouble, no one likes that. Then you send them to a quiet room to sit down for 10 minutes or so to let them message sink in that that was bad, and that you are unhappy with their actions. Make sure afterwards you hug them, tell them you love them but do not like their behaviour and would like it to change. Don't hold any grudges with them afterwards, their punishment is over, they've served it and it's time to move on. Hope this helps!