How do i cut all ties with someone i have children with.?

Question

He still gets them every other weekend and i want him to still be in the kids life he might not be a good man to be in arelationship with but he is a good father sometimes when hes not thinking of himself.

Answer 1

Don't have anything to do with him in any case for any reason, except the kids.  Refuse to talk about any and every topic, unless it's fundamental to your kids and their wellbeing.  Let him have an email to reach you at and a phone number, but leave it at that.  If he starts to harass you, record down every time he phones or emails you.  Make sure you keep copies of all messages and emails, even for the kids.  He'll either get the point or get a restraining order from you.

Answer 2

use a third party to drop the kids off at a relative perhaps and have him drop them their for you to pick them up.   also have a notebook the goes with them for child related communication.

Answer 3

Only because you guys aren't together doesn't mean he can't be there for his children.  Why would you want to not have him around your kids lives you said it yourself "he is a good father". Just move on with your life and he can move on with his.  He is the father and has the right to be around his children unless a court orders otherwise..  

Answer 4

Meet only to drop off/pick up the kids. Do it at a half way point for both of you...never at either of your homes or work places. You don't talk about anything but the kids. You are courteous to one another as if you were talking to any business acquaintance or stranger.

If he does something with the kids that you don't agree with take action through a lawyer.

Answer 5

How would you expect to cut all ties if you want him to be in the kid's lives? If you try to destroy his relationship with the kids, they will only resent you for it later. It's good for them to have both parents involved. Be mature and work together to raise the kids, they will be better off that way than if you try to cut all ties. You even said he's a good father.

Answer 6

Just cut the ties. Only see him when you are dropping off the kids into his care. Tell him you two can have a relationship when the kids are around but nothing intimate or even friend wise. Just acquaintances.

Answer 7

Communicate with him only when it has to do with the children, because other than that, there really is no need for u to talk.

Answer 8

You can't cut all ties with him.  Simple.  You move on with your life, he moves on with his and you both try to be there as parents for the children.  

Try to be on a friendly level, but keep your personal life private.  Only speak to him regarding the children.