How do i deal will my neighbours kids bullying my child?

Question

my son is 6 yrs old and his classmate is out neighbour. whenever my kid is playing outside his classmate bullies him and everytime i go to his house to talk to his mom he says she is not home. how do i deal with this situation?? plz help

Answer 1

well I can you tell you this one.  I'm a very passive person, I'm not all about confronting anyone, Just been like that for most of my life b/c my parents were like that.  Instead of handling the situation it was easier for them to ignore.  But when it comes down to my child I was very passive until I read an article about children learning the same things and being a repatative cycle.  Well I heard this little boy talking ugly to my child one day and my heart starting racing,  That was it.  Now or never,  I looked back at that child and told him his behavior and words were unacceptable.  I don't want to hear you or see you being mean to " sons name" again.  If you keep it up I'll tell him to be mean to you and you want be allowed over here anymore.  He stopped.  End of story.  Let the child know in uncertain terms that he will not behave like that or there will be consequences.

Answer 2

Tell your kid if the other kid ever hits him that he should defend himself. If he can't take him to karate to learn self-defense and gain self confidence.

Answer 3

I agree, you should be out there watching your son.  

You should also be telling him scenarios and how to deal with a variety of situations.   Prepare your son and use this "bullying" to give your child the skills that he needs to handle this type of situation.

I don't have boys and I don't believe in violence but I would definitely tell my child that she/he must stand up and defend themselves, it is so much easier to learn when you are young.   My children were always reluctant and at first I would stand behind them when they confronted a child...the next time I would stand back a ways, and the next time I would be present but not within earshot...that gave my child the confidence to stand up for themselves.

The classmate does not have any guidance and they don't know better, if the mom isn't home to watch the child maybe you should offer some motherly discipline to the classmate.   What would you want another mother to say to your son if he was doing the same thing?

Answer 4

call or talk to them or move or teach him how to fight or tell him to ignore

Answer 5

go to a teacher at the school and ask for the parents phone number and make sure to tell that teacher why, so she will look out at the school as well. take the number and call...do it every day until she answers...if you see him beating up on your son. smack him. then go to the house while the kid is still outside and complain....if the mom does nothing....call the police if it really comes down to it...you could probly even take a video tape of it....i would say just punch the child...but since he is so young it could be held against you

Answer 6

Some day when you KNOW she is home, knock on the door. When she answers it, tell her what is going on and that she needs to do something about her kid. If that doesn't work, keep your kid inside for awhile (as a last resort).

Answer 7

Is there ANY adult there?

Who's looking after the boy?

I would sit on the doorstep and wait for her to come home! (if you were able to)

Answer 8

So, what is he doing to "bully" your son?  Maybe you should stop trying to be involved in all of your son's activities and allow HIM to figure out a way around the problem.  Allow your son to hone his social skills instead of always butting in and wanting to "tattle" to the other child's mother.

Answer 9

ask if an adult is there  and if not pretend your calling the police!

Answer 10

Get a rope and a large soccer net ready for the next time you see someone bullying your kid.  Tie the bully into a ball, call the neighbors and have a spontaneous soccer game in the street.

Please post the video to Youtube.  I'd like to see who wins.

Answer 11

Go knock on his door, he's probably just saying she's not home because he doesn't want to get in trouble. If she really isn't there then surely there is some time you can get in touch with her to talk about it. She probably doesn't even know what's going on so I would make an effort to contact her even if it isn't directly after an incident.

Answer 12

Used to get a spanking. Today I really don't know.