How do i deal with a 12 year old who refuses any authority.?

Question

The little craphead gives my friend a hard time, he's my godson, my best friends kid, and he wont listen to anyone, refuses to go to school, wont eat anything he doesn't want, throws fits, tries to steal beer from my minibar i bring over, and carries weapons with him.

He's a real piece of work, what should i do about him? I'm not there consistently enough to crack down on him strictly, and my friend isn't really the best authority figure, he has problems being assertive and strict.

WTF do we do about this little fcker? I've had to grab him by the collar and drag him away from fighting another kid, with his knife.

Answer 1

Sounds like CPS needs to step in and take charge of the situation before it gets out of hand and he kills someone.

Answer 2

Holly shizz.sounds like a real rebel.Maybe some counseling or somthing..Talk to his school principle or diciplinarian,most importantly talk w/ his dad about it and see how he feels.Something must be done before someone gets hurt.Carrying knives with him?Jesus.That's definatly not a good sign.Do somthing before someone gets hurt.Either him or someone else.He might even end up in jail.Do somthing.Don't wait.You can try talking to him but alot of time if you tell a kid not to do somthing they will just want to do it more.Especially if they don't like you.Maybe there's a reason why he's acting this way.Good luck.

Answer 3

I have heard good things about The Total Transformation, a program that guarantees to get control of any kid.  Ive seem it for cheaper on eBay...Dr. Laura has a sure fire way too...strip the kid of everything he owns except 2 outfits and a bed.  For lie 2 weeks.  Every parents that calls back is thrilled to say their kid did a total turn  around.  Kid needs to re-learn who's the boss.  Or see a psychiatrist.

Answer 4

First of all what he needs most is to know he is loved unconditionally.  Sounds to me like this all started out as a means of testing his Dad and (those who love him) to see just how bad does he need to be until they walk out on him too.  Things like this can start in the way but get out of control quickly as people around him (IE teachers) label him and expect him to behave badly. I would sit down and explain to him that he is love unconditionally and it doesn't matter what he does, your love and that of his Dad is never going to change.  After that has been said at least 100 times and it starts to sink in, I would start some sort of reward system.  Like, if you go to school and do all your homework for the whole week, I will take you to rent a game/movie night or some other thing he likes.  Tell him its up to him to make the right choices that will earn him the reward.  This will take time so please don't give up, just keep telling him how loved he is.