How do i deal with a ten yr old who lies really bad?

Question

she was caught messing with my wig,and the child was lieing really bad...plus it was so obvious that she was caught.she lies too much for little things and it makes me so sad.her mother is out of town and she is stayin here with me...and she been doing stuff and lieing BOLDLY!!! i dont even know when she is telling the truth cos she is something else...help meeeeeeeeee

Answer 1

This child is obviously smart, if I were you I would tell her in a gentle way that someone as smart as her has nothing to be ashamed about. Also, make sure she knows that lying isn't cool or smart. Stupid people lie or people who want to hide the truth.

Answer 2

whenever you talk to her, lie. everything you say should be a lie. do this for a little bit and if she doesn't stop, just sit down and talk to her about it.

Answer 3

Miyake - there are two basic reasons that kids lie.  One, they know what the did was wrong and know  they will be punished so they lie.  

But the most basic reason they lie is because they are afraid that their parents (or caregivers) will stop loving them if they do something wrong.  This feeling  is so painful and frightening that they will LIE TO YOUR FACE even though the evidence is right in front of you.  Also kids have a hard time separating "I did something bad' from 'I did something bad therefore I am bad" and so they will lie to make themselves feel better.

When you ask her a question, just tell her, 'I love you and will continue to love you no matter what you say.'  Don't tell her you won't punish her, but reassure her that you will always love her no matter what she does.

Answer 4

i would just keep her in a place where you can always see her and what she is doing so you know when she is lying.

Answer 5

Send her to room. Wait 20-30 (years). Open door.

Water daily.

Answer 6

u spelled lying wrong,just saying,u spelled cuz wrong,js, show her how it feels,jk dont do that then ud be,take away things clean her mouth with soap,come on be creativve,Good Luck!

I GOT IT RECORD HER DOING SOMETHING AND LYING! ha ha!

Answer 7

Just confront her like the responsible adult her mother left her with.Dont make her feel bad about it, but just let her know that it is wrong and explain.If you could (DONT LIE)just make up some story of what hppen to people when they lie like:the little boy who cried for wolf,or even something that she would learn her lesson from!

Answer 8

lying is a means to avoid shame or punishment. Maybe the child is afraid to tell the truth.

Lying can be a means to attract attention. You are very upset about her lying, so she gets a lot of attention.

Lying can be an experiment. If I ly to someone, does she reject me, or does she love me for real?

Young children have a very different relation with truth and lies than adults.

Adult sometimes do force a child to lie by giving too much pressure.

Answer 9

Maybe she doing it for attention as she misses mum? Maybe she thinks you can't tell her off as you not mum?

Answer 10

Don't set her up to lie - what I mean is, if you know she is the culprit, why ask her in order for her to lie to you. Take that out of the equation. Just state it as fact and tell her you do not expect any comments. You will have to come up with some kind of punishment or she will still think it is ok to lie. I always liked soft soap when my kids were young and I didn't like what come out of their mouths. Lies or cuss words - it's all dirty - so clean it up.