How do i deal with an annoying and stupid mom?

Question

so i started drivers ed like a month ago, now everywere i go i drive and my mom sits in the passanger seat. every thing i do wrong or every little thing i do that she dosent like, for instacne, we were on the way to school, i made a right turn, and i turned into the inner lane, she yells,"GET ON THE OTHER LANE" school was 8 blocks down the road and i have so much time to switch, but she starts yelling and being annoying. she always does **** like this freakin so annoying, she would go off for 10 min or more just yelling. i tell her that i cant drive when i got an annyoing *** ***** yelling at me, cause i cant concertrate(sp) i already alomst hit a car cause all i could think about was how im gonna make her shut the h**l up.

anyone have any ideas on how to make her shut the h**l up? shes to stupid to realize that i cant drive with her yelling, even though i told her over 10 times.

Answer 1

Some moms need more than 10 times before it gets in their heads they are a source of stress... for starters, get her to sit in the rear passenger seat instead of next to you.

Also, have some relaxing music piped in the car before the journey...never under-estimate the power of music...they'll calm you and your mum down.

Third, start your drive 15 minutes earlier than usual so you can afford to go slow and your mum's not so anxious about being late.

Good luck!

Answer 2

You need to sit down and talk quietly with your mom, just let her know what you are feeling when you drive.

Get one thing straight your moms NOT STUPID, at least you are getting lessons.

Answer 3

when u R a beginner or learner, they're not too many choices. everybody got a sceamin' yellin' person at one stage in the passenger seat.

u're the lucky one: it's your mom! for one second put yourself in her spot. facing death just to let "sweet baby" drive 2 school???

what about when U were a kid, screaming while she was driving?

in a quiet moment (not in the car) U can explain to your mom, that u're not really coping with pressure and ask her not to yell when driving..or at all.

other choice? take the bus or walk.

Answer 4

Step One - Give your mom this article:

http://www.driversedguru.com/driving-art...

Step Two: Chill out and grow up.  It sounds like you're too immature to deal with the responsibility of a license.  And no, I don't have kids.  I'm just smart enough to know that this rant isn't indicative of a mature kid.

Answer 5

Well, if you can't handle your mom teaching you how to drive than have another adult friend or family member teach you OR save up your money and get yourself driving lessons...

Answer 6

to start, she is required to sit in the passenger seat.

when you're not in the car, talk with her about how she makes you feel when you're driving.  be calm.  blow up at her and she's liable not to let you drive at all.

remember, she responsible if you hit anything or anyone.  she's had a few more years driving than you have.

good luck!

Answer 7

I didn't know you were allowed to drive at the age of 10, well I assume you are of that age considering your attitude and your writing, though I must say that even at that age you might be a little better. Is this how American children start off on their shooting rampages, I will watch the news , it is only a matter of time. Personally I would have stopped the car and knocked the very shite out of you, driving badly would have been the least of your problems

Answer 8

shes your mom, she loves you, dotn hate on her, shes handled the pains of birth, which means you are indebted to her for life, and nothing you can do can change that. Id advise you to be patient because in the end you may get the right experience and training needed and pass teh drivers test because of what you claim to be your mom's Stupidity.

my mother does the same, i have park before i turn the lights and the radio off, then only can i turn the car off. however im patient with her and deal with as best as i can. Islam teaches me to be righteous and kind to ones parents.

Answer 9

moms are never "annoying and stupid"

Answer 10

So, you mean your mom wants you to be a good driver and not wreck the car and kill yourself?

Man, what a *****.

Answer 11

Keep a small tape recorder in your car, or on you. And switch it on when you get into the car.

Let her go off as usual while you make your best effort to remain calm and polite. She won't notice that you are calmer but she WILL act as she usually does. Later when you are both out of the car and in a more relaxed setting play it back for her and let her hear what she sounds like.

Don't just "throw it in here face" and lord it over her by returning her rudeness and hostility. That will get you nowhere and just more of the same from her. Instead quietly and calmly say "It is difficult for me to do my best this is going on". Try not to "blame"

Sometimes parents feel threatened by the growing independence of their children, and they respond by trying to make those children fearful or less confident in themselves. Ignoring a child's success and magnifying their mistakes or shortcomings is one way to do that.

If she can pull you into an argument with lots of anger and name-calling then she wins  because you are then distracted from your goal of driving safely, or whatever else it is that you are trying to do.

Practice to ALWAYS be polite and maintain your cool. When she sees this change in you it will make her even more worried and she will try harder than ever. But don't take the bait !

There are many good books available on the subject of dealing with difficult people. Check them out.

Happy driving!

Answer 12

drive straight down to h**l, next time on the road with her on the backseat yelling, she will learn her lesson the hardway.

joking

just deal with it if she is not going to be there on the backseat forever.

Answer 13

Unfortunately there are always some people who will always be annoying and tell the driver how to drive.. Even sometimes those who aren't drivers themselves. You should tell her in a polite way that her constant bickering is making you nervous that you have your style of driving and you want to drive safely above all so could she please refrain from constant criticism otherwise you can't concentrate on what you are doing or that it would be better if she sat in the back seat. ''

You got to live with that I suppose, it's not easy.. Try to ignore it. When you are more used to driving you will be able to do the right thing and you just say..'yes mom' and do what you think. It's extremely frustrating if someone interferes when the driver is still new to the driving'' then you really need to concentrate only on what you are doing and the worst thing is to have someone constantly shout. She could at least in a soft voice point out what she would do not as criticism but as a suggestion and definitely she shouldn't yell. I couldn't drive then either.. Try to remain calm and concentrate on the traffic and on being road safe. you can't use duct tape and tie her up and gag her in the car.. even if you want to.. until you get to your destination.. unfortunately you just have to learn to close your ears to what she says and just say yes and concentrate on safety first and not on your mom or what she says. If she has a suggestion to make she should make it in a normal voice. without yelling.

Answer 14

OK NOW WHEN YOU GET YOUR OWN CAR I SERIOUSLY DOUBT THAT YOU WILL BE THERE TO LISTEN TO HER SAY ANYTHING BUT UNTIL THEN WHEN IN ROME   YOU GOTTA PUT UP WITH THAT B!@#$TCH SCREAMING AT YOU I KNOW I HAD A MOM LIKE YOURS AND IT DIDNT TAKE ME LONG TO HIT THE BRICKS I GOT SICK OF HER YELLING ALL OF THE TIME WELL SOUNDS LIKE SHES A CONTROL FREAK  THOSE ARE THE WORST KIND CANT EVER PLEASE THEM  YOULL WORK IT OUT  JUST TRY TO PUT UP WITH HER MOUTH UNTIL YOU CAN SCRAM OUTTA THERE GOOD LUCK

Answer 15

As a Mom, I am offended that you don't have any more respect for your mom then you do. Driving is a privilege and if I was her I wouldn't let you drive until you show some respect. SHE IS YOUR MOM. She gave birth to you, if it was for her you wouldn't be here.  

Answer 16

Why don't you try shutting up and listening to her.  She's obviously been driving longer than you, so she knows what she's talking about and wants to keep you safe.  Don't be such a jackass.  If you were my kid and talked to me that way, I'd take away your driving privileges.

Answer 17

dont drive with her, get an instructor. no one drives in front of their parents, seriously. this just means you're sane

Answer 18

star being more solitary and stay away from her and be quite for awhile then when its been awhile and she needs your help she wont yell at you after its done a couple times and she got quieter then stop speaking to her completely and she ask about it u say I'm tired  of u yelling so i stoped  talking to u

and when she tells u to get over do  it and try to get her to SHUT UP

Answer 19

omg!!!!!!i totally understand!!!! my mom is sooooo freaking annoying that i think she cant live without bothering me!!!! holy c**p.

i hate her

Answer 20

Wow,how disrespectful of you to talk about your mother like that.

Believe me,it is no picnic being the one sitting in that passenger seat.

Let your mom know that when she yells,it distracts you from driving. I think all parents are stressed out when they teach their children to drive. You'll find that out yourself someday. My son let me know when I was making him nervous when he was learning. Just talk to her about it. And show a little more respect for the woman that brought you into this world.  

Answer 21

Just tell your mom in a calm and respectful tone of voice that it makes you really nervous when she yells. BTW, she may tend to yell at you because of your attitude- calling your mom stupid and annoying- not cool! Driving is a privilege, not a right, she could just stop you from driving altogether.  

Answer 22

I see this has really upset but every parent is like that when their child is driving. I'm a perfect driver and i always get yelled at for not turning properly, not indicating at the right time etc.  its a common thing and you are not the only one. next you get in the car with her before starting off tell her to calm down and if she wants to correct you to do it slowly and not yell because it psychs you out and you lose concentration.