How do i deal with dating a woman that i really love and care about with a self-worth issue?

Question

She feels she does'nt deserve anything good to happen to her at all. She fears if she opens up 2 me 100% she fears of getting her and her childrens hearts broken like from two previous relationships that went under. As soon as feelings grow for me she will stay away for days and wont call (like she is literally forcing herself not to have any feelings for me). She dont see what she has to offer me, and feels that i deserve better. But in the same breath she says she wants the whole fairytale thing and she knows that i am the man of her dreams?!!!??? My gut feeling tells me to hang in there but i dont really know what to do??!!!?? PLZ HLP

Answer 1

I would have to agree with the first answer.  Counselling may not only help you both to deal with the issues, but for you to even suggest it and participate with her may make her see what an effort you are making to be with her and that your feelings are genuine.  It may surprise her to know that you think shes worth all the effort to go to counselling.  

Answer 2

if you really love her then you would listen to her feelings and if you really love her then you should try going out with her and if it doesnt work, it doesnt work.

just be friends if you can go out

Answer 3

She does have to realize that you're not the guys who hurt her but that's a hard thing to do so you have to realize - she's had bad happen. She's trusted before and loved before and thought she was right and turned out to be so wrong - not only for herself but for innocent children. I think the best thing for you to do - if you love her - is to go to couples counseling. She may balk at that but talk to the counselor first to see how to present it. My guess would be that the best angle would be for you to say, "I love you and I want to do what's best for you and the kids." She knows she has these issues and it's probably eating her up inside that she wants to believe you but she just needs help in dealing with the damage the other realtionships have done.

Answer 4

Its good you re seeking help.

Take it slow and hear her out before you make a decision or disappoint her as well.

Good luck dear.