How do i deal with my alcoholc mom?

Question

My mom is an alcoholic. She recently stayed with us tor about two weeks. She called my brother (who she lives with) and told them that she was "bored out of her mind" because we wouldnt take her anywhere. That was a lie 'cuz my sisters took her out to eat several times, and my son and I took her out to the movies. The rest of the time she stayed in bed till 2 p.m. 'cuz she was hungover. She also kept peeing and throwing up all over my bathroon floor. Towards the end of her visit, she got so drunk that she also ended crapping all over the floor too, and decided to run around the house naked (shes 71). My 20 year old son ended haveing to leave the house becuas my mom refused to get dressed. we still showed her kindness; but then when she got home, she told my brother a pak of lies about me and my sisters. should i call her and chew her out?

Answer 1

No, it won't do any good to "chew her out". If your brother knows how she is then he probably doesn't believe her anyway so just don't sweat it. It does sound to me though, that she has bigger issues than just the alcoholism but the alcoholism is the crux of the problems.  How awful to be her age and be so out of control.  Sorry and good luck to you.

Answer 2

I'm sorry to hear about your mother, it must be hard on you & your family. I don't think chewing her out would help the situation, but you could talk to your brother if he is understanding. You should consider going to an Al-Anon meeting. It is a place for people who know alcoholics can go to talk with others in the same situation. Here is there website: http://www.al-anon.alateen.org/

Answer 3

Rachel sad that your mom had to act that way, but as I'm sure you are aware of by now this is more than normal for many problem drinkers.  Have you ever considered attending Alanon (group for friends and families of alcoholics) to learn how to live your life without feeling the guilt that the alcoholic will try and place on you.  Actually I am a member of AA but do not know that much about this sister program other than it is great for helping extended family members.  Also if you can perhaps you could speak with your mom's doctor about her drinking habits and how they are affecting everyone at present.  As far as calling her and giving her sh^t, whats the use, she'll probably forget about it the next day anyway.  It may come to the stage where you have to dictate to your mom that she is welcome at your house but if she decides to come that she is to remain alcohol free.  Hopefully she would respect this wish although there is a chance that you might see less of her for a while. Once she has hit the last door on the street and hit her own rock bottom is when she will decide to try and sober up.  I hope for everyone's sake that it is sooner rather than later.  Best of luck.

Answer 4

I would leave her alone and see about getting her put in rehab or a rest home. This is unacceptable behavior for someone her age.