How do i deal with my mothers recent death?

Question

2 weeks ago. where should i look for guidance in the matter?

she had brain cancer, was the center of our family, suffered a lot in the last month of life and all of the family was there to witness it. cant seem to get the details of the last few months out of my every thoughts...help.

Answer 1

Because your mother went the way she did doesn't mean you will, or anyone close to you for the matter. Death is such a reality check, I know, but the only sure thing about life is that it goes on.....rich h

Answer 2

The best thing is to just get your mind off it.  Go hang out with your friends, or go shopping or something.  Play tons of video games.  Do anything that will keep you away from sad thoughts.  I am recommending keeping your mind off it, but that doesn't mean you are supposed to ignore your feelings.  You will go through the "stages of grief" or whatever they are called, but eventually you will be able to return to a mostly normal life.  The best thing is to tell others what you are feeling and to pretty much release it. It will take a burden off your back.

Answer 3

'I don't have your answer '

I only wanted to give you  my condolences

How very  sadden i am  for your lose  

Three days ago     was my youngest sons  birthday

Four years ago  he turned  22   A few hours after the party

He was killed by  a stray  bullet  

died instantly

Some how  we all get threw  these situations

I have no advice   except   cry  cry  smile  cry

And know   she  loves you    And wants you to know  how good she is feeling   health wise   No pain  ect

Go get em  big guy

thank you

peace

Answer 4

losing your mother is the hardest thing you will ever have happen in your life.  but you should seek support from family and friends.  if you have trouble accepting her death or feel angry then perhaps you should see a therapist

Answer 5

when my mom died, i looked for God. she died of breast and bone cancer, but everything else you wrote was the same here. the details were horrible too, but with God's help, ive never thought of my mom like that again. i see her just like she was before she was sick.

God?

Answer 6

Two weeks is not very long at all to have had such a devasting loss happen in your life.  You need to give yourself time to grieve and allow your body mind and soul a chance to heal.  Try to remember your mother the way she would have wanted you to remember her.  I have lost a lot of people very close to me through the years and know how hard it is.  There are a lot of support groups out there to help and you shouldn't feel strange about wanting to go to one of them.  Having a close relationship with God and Jesus helped me so much in my time of pain.  Know that a lot of people understand and are there to help you.  Try to find a church or group of people you can talk to.  Don't try and go it alone.  Best wishes