How do i deal with my parents separation?

Question

i am 19 years old, my parents are separating, they say they dont love each other anymore. i dont understand how christians can let this happen? we've been involved in the church since i could remember. i always believed LOVE NEVER FAILS...as said in 1corinthians 13. i just cant deal with all of this. i leave for college in 2 weeks and i cant leave my home like this.i feel hopeless and i cant stop crying. i'm so emotional.

Answer 1

re: LOVE NEVER FAILS...

....this should say: Relationship Skills never fail!  

Even Christians could use a little relationship training which may or may not be found in the Bible or at church.

Please do a better job by learning about relationship skills at:

http://www.google.com/search?client=oper...

Answer 2

So sorry.  Ask them to stay together and get church counseling. Tell them how awful you feel. Ask them to delay it until your married and out of college.  Tell them you want both of them in your children's lives without tension and new spouses.

You may be able to change their mind.

Answer 3

to me marriage is a societal thing and feel that it is not taken seriously because marriage is not logical.. one love the rest of your life.. no temptation? yeah right... I am not religious and feel my life has been so much better since I realized I determine my fate..

Answer 4

Sounds like more than your parents separation is getting. Maybe you are questioning your faith. Go to school. You have your life, they have theirs. You don't know what went on in their marriage. Love never fails, but demonstrating it does.

You think Christians are in such a class that they don't have these stressful issues? Puleeze!

I hope you are not going to a Christian college or your world is going to be upset. They drink, have premarital s*x, there are even a few homosexuals. Some of them come from divorced homes, some may get divorced themselves.

Your parents love you. They probably stayed together all of these years until you were going to college. They probably lived a miserable life for a long time to keep your home life stable while growing up. This isn't about you, this is about them.

Why do you feel hopeless? They love you. They are cooperatively giving you the opportunity to go to college. They will always love you and take care of you.

Answer 5

most religions prtty much say the same thing& a divorce isn't necessarily bad, for your parents it could mean a second chance.

oh and also Love never fails, there true love could still be waiting :)

Answer 6

Well sweetheart just pray for your parents and see if you can be the peacemaker and help them get back together. I really don't know how it feels to see parents separate because my father was never around, and I never had a relationship with my father. (sorry for getting off track), try to see what's the cause of their growing apart and suggest that they seek the Lord together, go to marriage counseling, or talk to the pastor before going their own way. It could be build up hurts and disappointments that have came to surface. Tell them how its effecting you and maybe they will listen to you!

Hope all is well  

Answer 7

I don't know.

My parents were married for 45 yrs, and I even said at 38 I would not be able to accept it if they ever seperated. Fortunately they never did.

My Mom died 17mnths before my Dad died, and THAT is even worse!!

Love them, and be happy that you still have them.

even though they are not together.

Answer 8

You have to put it in Gods hands and let him handle it.