How do i deal with someone affected by mood swings?

Question

The problem is that she is nice (or normal) to me when she feels like it then, for no particular reason, she is really mean and unapproachable .Don't tell me to stay away from her, ignore her or not call her because i cant. i want to know how to deal with this psychologically. It's not PMS.

Answer 1

Sounds like she has a chemical imbalance going on.  She probably doesn't know why she acts this way.  

There's not a whole lot you can do about her problem.  It is indeed Her problem unless you let it bacome your problem too. Either learn to deal with it or go somewhere else. YOU will not be able to change anyone else but you.  Just decide which you want, her or peace....

I don't believe you deserve this so I'd suggest you move on. Sorry but unless you really want to be the psycharist in this situation, go elsewhere quickly.

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Answer 2

well, talk to her, understand her problem, tell her that you are there for her anytime.. just give her a feeling, that you are there for her... comfort her with love, take for out, places where she smiles... where she can feel free!!!

have a nice day and good luck!!!  

Answer 3

There are different things you can try.

1. First, just observe here. is she like this with everyone, only certain people, or just you? If it's everyone or most people, it's probably not you. It may really be mood swings, or it may be something else going on with her.

2. Confront her and gently ask what's going on. Tell her it hurts when she's like that and ask if it's you. I could say to pick a time when she's in a good mood, because she may be more willing to open up to you, but there are also advantages to trying this when she's being cold. It may cause her to let forth with something she'd otherwise hold back - you may get the real truth then. But you may not. She may just lash out with the first thing that comes to her, and it may not even be how she feels. No matter what mood she's in, she may deny that anything is wrong, even if it is. So this is something to try, and it may really help, but you'll have to decide whether to accept her answer as heartfelt truth or as what she felt like saying at that moment.

3. If it really does seem to be mood swings, maybe have a discreet discussion with her parents or a high school counselor. It may be that she needs professional help. Mood swings can be caused by problems in someone's life, they can be psychological, but they can also be signs of physical disease.

4. If none of the above works, behaviorism does. You'd have to be firm and consistent, but you can get her to act better towards you by giving her what she wants (known as rewards in behavioral theory) when she acts nicely and doing what she doesn't want when she's mean or cold. I don't mean giving her gifts. It's more like giving your attention vs. ignoring her, complimenting or praising her vs. telling her you won't take certain behaviors from her, being cool towards her in return, and so on. This has to be done right when the behaviors happen.

5. You say you can't not be around her, etc. I assume this means you're so attached to her that you can't bear to not be around her. (Unless you're talking about your mother, but you can remove yourself from the room even with her.) The best way to get over that is to talk with others, hang out with others. So if you're in a group and she starts being mean, just turn away and ask another girl if she'd like to go for a walk or something. At some point, you may find you'd really rather be around one of the others than her, anyway. Nothing like finding another girl (or guy) to help you get over one.