How do i deal with things?

Question

well i have been with someone for the past year..decided to move in with my 2 daughters and he is having a difficult time excepting my girls...one is 12 and the other is 4....they are great and not messy like most children are....but he will not except them because they are not his...we have been arguing as a family for the passed week and he will not talk to my 12 year old for the past 3 days now...i am, about to give up on the relationship due to my daughters not feeling wanted when they are around him...my 12 yr old respects him and he still has an attitude against her....and it is like they are competing for my attention....and i am choosing my daughters side because i am her mother and she has really done nothing wrong in this situation....he just des not except them and i have given him all the time i can because i can not deal with it any longer

Answer 1

tell him what u just told us

Answer 2

It's a tough thing to do - move in with your kids - when they are not his kids!!!!

Personally - I would tell him if he can't grow up and behave like an adult and treat your kids with respect - then you will consider leaving - your kids are your first priority.

Does he not have nieces and nephews - what is his relationship like with them?

Sounds like he wants you all to himself.!!!   Selfish.!

Clearly you have brought you kids up to respect there elders and you should be very proud of them. This can't be easy on them either - but they trust you to make the right choices for you and them..... it's up to you to make the right choice now.

Good luck.

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