How do i discipline a 6 year old when she is disobedient?

Question

She is my cousin and her mom already told me i cant spank her. (i wouldnt anyway) she is often a brat and deliberitely doesnt listen to me. When i ask her to apologize she sits there with the worst attitude. I tell her she may not get up from her chair until she apologizes and she says she would rather sit there than listen to me. HELP!

Answer 1

you know what they say "beat on the brat with a baseball bat..."

Answer 2

heres my best suggestion-

take things away from her.  say, if she does somethign bad and/or doesnt apoligize, threaten to take away TV or a playdate.  if she doesnt clean up her act, then when the time comes up, dont let her participate.

Answer 3

I agree with the others. If you have told her she needs to sit there until she apologizes then she can do just that. Eventually she will grow tired of always sitting in an uncomfortable chair. Another thing I might suggest is to highlight her good behavior. When she does something that pleases you, praise her for that and let her know why you appreciate it. Sometimes focusing on the positives instead of the negatives, decreases the negatives. Sometimes. Good luck though.

Answer 4

When my sister doesn't listen, I make her sit in timeout for 6 minutes (because she's six) usually she gets a warning first, unless what she did was really bad.

If she gets up, her time simply starts all over again until she sits for the full six minutes.

Usually by that time she is exhausted and ready to apologize. Make sure you let her know u love her, and then it's done.

Don't bring it up again .

That usually works pretty well.

Answer 5

when she is getting into stuff just ignore her(let her think youre ignoring her) unless she is causing harm to herself or others.  it may take awhile but it sounds like she is acting out for attention bc she knows she is getting attention by you yelling at her.  ignoring her will make her see that thats not the attention she should be striving for.

Answer 6

Dont be bothered by her bad attitude. If she wants to sit there than let her sit there till her attitude improves. Just remeber she may only be acting ugly because she misses her parents and figures if you quit babysitting her they will have to stay at home with her.

Answer 7

Tell her you will take something away from her for alittle while till she apologizes.

Answer 8

sorry but i believe in disiplining children which means if ABSOLUTELY NECESSARY spanking. But you are not allowed or willing to do so, so put her in a room by herself until she apolizes. when she is acting good, get her to play games with you. the more she helps and is good, reward her with something like a cookie or ice cream. or to go somewhere. if none of that works, you need to sit mommy down and tell her that your neice doesn't want to behave. you may have to tell mom to take your neice somewhere else to be taken care of.

Answer 9

Why are you in a position of disciplining your cousin? Do you see her that often? She is trying to communicate something with her bad behavior....try to figure out what she needs...more attention? tell her what you want her to do instead of what you don't want her to do...('talk nicely to me' instead of 'don't say that')...

I'm just concerned that you have permission from mom to spank..glad you are not going to...

Answer 10

keep her on a time out for 6 minutes, take away something she really likes to play with until she apologizes for her behavior and tell her you are sorry if she is having a rough time but she knows better than to act like this.  she is just pushing your limits and you have to be consistant so that she knows there are boundaries and she can't play games with you!

Answer 11

Sit her down, explain only once why you have sat her down. You must use the same chair in the same area. I used to call it the "ugly" chair. My daughter acted ugly(naughty) she sat in her room in a cookie monster chair and had to look at what she "could" be doing if she had not been "ugly".

Follow through is very very important. Make her understand the reason for punishment, make her admit and tell you how she will fix it. The apology is important as well but I did not make my daughter apologize, instead she would have to tell me what she did and what she will do instead... it worked and there were times she sat there for hours but she did what was expected.

Also, PLEASE remember to say "I love you" after it's over because we all need to know that a mistake is not a reason not to be loved.

Answer 12

u said she would sit there so she stays period.

Answer 13

I have a 6 yr old she when she is disobedient I put her in the corner until she tells me or whoever she was mouthy to the she is sorry. if she does not do that then she sits there until she does...end of story. I do not talk to her or answer any of her questions when she is in punishment, that is her time to reflect on what she did and why she was put there.

Answer 14

ask her nicely again, and if she still wont listen to you threaten to tell her mom. ouviously, she will listen to you. and say that she has to do everything with a good attitude or else she isnt worth loving. and tell her you only do this because you love her, and want her to lead a good life if you end up having a bad attitude too.

Answer 15

You need to ask her mom how she would like you to discipline the child.  What does the mom do when the girl is disobedient?