How do i discipline my 3yr He has the F off word being said my other children!!

Question

How do i discipline him at first i told him "we dont use words like this as its rude" and left it as i thought making a fuss out of it would be exciting for him. He carried on so i smacked his legs and put him on the bottom step of the stairs. Yet he still says those words. What next!! Earlier he said goodbye to his nan and grandad and was waving and he said f off word while waving. So please somebody suggest how i stop him.

Answer 1

ha its cute well at that age only so.. hey look find words that sound like like try fly off or something and tell him that that word is a lot cullos than F*** off or tell him another harmless word and say its cooler and everytime he ses it tell he'll get to be treated like a big boy if he doesnt say it and if he does it treat him like a baby tel him and dont let him do anything ground him its still cute though hey make a video and save it ok  

Answer 2

the best thing you can do at this point is to get him into learning so many new words that he will totally forget about the other one, buy him books and read with him. that's the best advice i can give you. when children learn things they sometimes forget other things, they just get lost in their head. so try teaching him more words that he doesn't know about yet and he will forget about cursing and saying f*** off

Answer 3

Well he is young and he is at that age where he is testing his limits. You should take away things like his favorite toy everytime he uses that word and put him in timeout away from people. Like in a corner.

Answer 4

First, stop bringing him around people who are saying these words, and stop saying them yourself if you are. Also, smacking your son is only going to teach him that not only swearing, but also hitting is ok

Answer 5

My kids used to say sh.. alot.  I started sayin fiddle sticks when I drop or get fustrated.  Replacing the bad word with a new word in the same contex helps.  When he waved and said that you should turn around and wave like he did but say something like see ya later alliagator. Or something fun like that

Answer 6

I'm sure you don't swear infront of the kids and I know how daunting it can be when a child learns a rather embarassing and unimpressive word.Heres what helped me(it may sound silly but it worked for me) I used the word 'silly billy' in a really offensive way.My sisters would 'pretend' it was tremendously wrong.Somehow,instead of using the word he previously used ,he in anger would use silly billy.Having said that you mention how he doesn't use it out of offense,in which case I'd suggest you try to divert his attention elsewhere instead of drawing it to him.Hes still young so hopefully(and aslong as he doesn't here this word again too soon) he should forget it.  

Answer 7

try 2 bribe them....by sayin if u stop doin this ill take u 2 chuck e cheese or give u candy.....or something like that.....

tell them wat the consequences could b for him when he grows older and wat will happen 2 him at home like being grounded, no tv, no games, no ice cream, etc.

Answer 8

If a good swat to the *** didn't help, then I would give him a table spoon full of dish detergent every time he says it.  It will make him have to p**p but it won't harm him.  He'll learn.

Wow, 8 Thumbs down for my answer.  Maybe I should tell you guys to F-off?

Answer 9

My 3 year old daughter says it occasionally for attention.  She fully understands it is a 'not nice' word that we try not to use and when she does say it now we generally ignore her and she quickly moves onto something else to get our attention!

Sometimes the little ones love any attention good or bad, and saying the F word (especially in public) pretty much guarantees a reaction.

Seriously ignore it.  If it is not rewarded with attention they will soon stop using it.

Please stop with all the hitting/spanking answers!  It is only a word for goodness sake!

Answer 10

It's too late...you've obviously done something that indicates this is okay. Plus, you should never, ever, hit your child! I think you are treating him passive-aggressively and so he's getting mixed messages. You need to make it REALLY clear that's it's not okay. Plus...that makes me wonder where he picked up the F word....if you said it in front of him, of course he's going to start saying it too! Try to limit your swear words when you're in front of him. Good luck!

Answer 11

my mum used to make me hold soap in my mouth for 1 min lol - tho i think 3 is a bit young for that - how about taking one of his toys from him for a while - or saying he cant watch tv for a day

Answer 12

Too whoever thinks that smacking your children and giving them dish detergent is okay: Honestly, F**k you.

My mom hit me ALOT when i was little and it really screwed me up. I am constantly paranoid and afraid to go out in public, and medicine doesnt work. Most of the time i hide it, but sometimes it escapes and it makes my mom feel extrodinarily horrible.

DO NOT MESS YOUR KIDS UP LIKE THIS! Please, please dont hit or give them poisonous items. Mustard is ok, because they'll probobly just end up not liking mustard.

I've been in the hospital before for suicidal thoughts, do you want that to happen to your kids? No? THEN STOP BEING VIOLENT!

Answer 13

Here is a great site for disclipline and answers you may have about your children.  I couldn't find anything about bad words on there, but it has other useful information on how to displine your children, but it was too much to copy!   Just ingnore him and don't laugh or make a big deal of it when he says the bad word!  And more than likly he will forget it.  Try using a different word like "OH RATS"  or something like that!  Maybe he will pick that up in place of the other word!  Good luck!

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Answer 14

tell him the word means something horrible

mym mum did that to me, i know the truth now

but i still don't use it, son't ask me how or why it works

but my mum told me she did it so when i have children i know how to stop them

Answer 15

You have to just ignore it.  The only reason he says it is because he gets attention from it.  Even if it's negative attention, it's attention and that's all kids that age want.  I went through the same thing with my 3 1/2 year old.  It's just another faze.  He will grow out of it.

Answer 16

Soap in the mouth worked for me, Did it once my children now wouldnt dream of swearing. Sounds harsh but I told them if they have a dirty mouth then it needs cleaning.

Answer 17

My son's 2 1/2, and recently heard a man in Sainsburys arguing with the cashier and started repeating the language the man said. From the second i reacted to him saying it, my son did it more. Eventually, i ignored it, and would find my little lad looking at me whilst saying it waiting for a reaction. Now, i ignore him, and ive not heard him say it since.

I certainly wouldn't smack him, whats that teaching him?

Answer 18

Repetition and show and tell is the key. Do not use the bad words around him, and do not laugh when he says the bad words. Get down on his level so you are face to face having a conversation and Tell him "No -we dont use words like this as its rude and will make nan and grandad sad". Let's try it together, and practice together waving and saying 'I love you nan and grandad".  If he continues, tell him it is a 2nd warning, and if he repeats after the warning he will get a time out. Put him in a time out corner or area where you can watch him. He may be too young to understand what he is saying, and the reactions may have been people thought it was cute or laughed, so he repeats it. He might not be able to separate in his mind, the waving and the words. When he does it correctly, be sure to give him lots of praise - good job, good boy.

Answer 19

There is no point in smacking kids, you've proved that by smacking him and he still did it again, he is only persevering because he is getting a reaction from you, ignore him completely when he says it, he'll soon stop.  

Answer 20

wash his mouth out with

mustard

washing up liquids-fairy etc not cillit bang

anything that tastes foul-flour etc

or spray pepper spray into his mouth to burn his language away

Answer 21

It's one of those things that unfortunately children do pick up. You just have to make it clear to him when he does say it that it is very bad. Smack him, put him in time out and make sure he doesnt come out untill he apologises. He will learn not to use that word. Good luck!

Answer 22

Kids use such language without the slightest idea of what it means..its only from the intense reaction they get (laughter, anger) that they think they should be saying it..

Also, most of the time calmly and seriously yet very firmly explaining that its a bad and rude word and decent people dont use it..the kid might understand..and wont get rebellous..try telling him indirect stories where a kid is being rude to others, hurts other ppl's feelings..and they stop being nice to him too or something like that ...also that his nan nad grandad love him dearly and would be so hurt to be spoken to like that...

If that does not work..you could go for timeouts to ensure he takes you seriously....

Answer 23

Popping them (lightly) in the mouth worked for me. You have to do it EVERY SINGLE time they say it, if not it doesn't work. Any type of punishment, but consistency.  

Answer 24

Try prevent him from hanging out with those children who say it to him, obviousky they arnt his company and age bracket and knows more than he does

if it is TV maybe you should prevent him from watching those shows

everytiim he says the F word , take something valuable away from him

or make a chart and tick how many times he says it , if he says it say 3 times a day , he has three things (HE REALYY) enjoys taken away from him.  

Answer 25

i suggest every time he says it you should take away one of his privileges, and one that he really cares about. Keep doing this and he will learn.

Answer 26

hi the more fuss you make of the word the more he will say it just say thats a bad word and no more if you smack or shout at him he will do it all the more .......mum of 4 nan of 6

Answer 27

Most kids go through this, even if they don't hear it at home they'll hear it on TV or even in the street.  A lot of them go through this phase because they know it's not right and they know they'll get a reaction from it.  

Yeah, it's shocking when you first hear it, but just try to let him know it's not acceptable language to use and try to ignore it.  When he swears don't give him the attention, just say something like 'I'm not going to listen to you if you say bad words' and then walk off and ignore it.   He'll soon get bored of it if he's not getting attention.

My son, when he was about 2 shocked me one day when he decided to say at a bus stop b******.  I was really shocked and felt so ashamed but just tried to not make a big deal of it and let him know I wasn't happy with him.  He's 10 now and would never swear infront of me.  

Answer 28

Children pick up words from those closest - I'm not knocking you because my son did it too!

The way I got him out of it was just ignoring him, when he had a reaction he would do it more, but when I ignored him he stopped doing it.

Good luck , hee hee children are so funny aren't they!xx

P.s I also made up an innocent word like goblin and pretended to him it was a bad word so he kept saying it - and the more I said naughty boy the more he said it and forgot about the F word.

Answer 29

Wow, you have a lot of children - first 3 close together! Maybe he's feeling a bit squeezed out and is trying to get attention?

Seems like you've tried what I would suggest to no avail.  I would keep up with the naughty step.  Always worked as a last resort with mine.  I made them stay until they decided they were sorry (as long as over 2 mins) and then they had to say what they were sorry for.  I would then say why it was wrong briefly.

When you do, say "ok, glad you've decided not to hurt anyone's feelings any more and that you're going to be a kind boy now - let's go and do something fun"

Change the situation and do something fun with just him.  Hard I know when you have a few kids and hopefully he'll grow out of it.

Answer 30

My three year old went through the F word phase, too. We told her it's a private word that she should only use when she is alone in her room and not around other people.

Don't make a fuss. Just remind him not to use that word.

Answer 31

He does it to gain attention. And it works! Try to play it down. Explain to him that it will result in him not getting the things he likes (whatever they may be). If you react it by appearing cross it will tend to encourage him. Blank him and walk away when he does it. Insist on an apology before you show him any affection. It will work but you need to be firm and not give in at any time.