How do i find my old Foster mom,for Graduation. ?

Question

I was in foster care for two years when i was 9. im now 17. i have also ran into a few of my old foster sisters, they recognized me, and pretend to have never know me.I also found out this year my foster dad had died a couple of years ago do to smoking.Ok so down to businesses how do i find my mom with out a location, she aslo might of changed her last name

Last i heard her name yes Yvette Frederick

Answer 1

Well thats nice. Most of these folks only complain ABOut The Aps or foster parents that try to help them..

Here. i looked her up on people finders. you have to do the rest

http://www.peoplefinders.com/summary.asp...

Answer 2

Ask your parents to put you in touch with the agency who handled your foster care.  Likely she is still working with them, and they would gladly forward any invitations.  

I'm sorry you lost touch.  One of my brothers never had a stable foster family.  However, the other one had a great foster family (an elderly couple with several grown children and a younger adopted child) from the time he was born until he was almost 2.  We stayed in contact with them for years.  My brother is grown now and his foster father has passed away, so communication has grown a little less frequent.  Still, they were a big part of childhood for all of us - not just my brothers.  Foster parents can be like an extended family.  I hope you can find her!  

Answer 3

I recommend www.zabasearch.com

they ave several Yvette Frederick listed

Answer 4

Why don't you go through the government agency that (I'm assuming) was legally responsible for you at the time and organised the foster placement?  They probably won't give you her contact details but they might pass on a letter or an invitation.

Answer 5

I'd also go to the agency and let them know you'd like her to know you are graduating...

I have known of them forwarding mail to the foster parents.  If you know her name you can search that.

Her information may very well also be in your school record and unless you parents have a problem with it, they could help you search there, or if you have a nice guidance office they could also help you search.

If you remember any of your old workers, GAL, CASA, therapist, any of that, they may also help

all your records are supposed to be kept until you are 18, so unless your parents are totally against it, something somewhere, Dr. school, dentist, or social services should know exactly who had you...

Good luck...

I've been told not to let any of my old foster children know I fostered them (I usually had kids under 8)  because is may be against their parents or adoptive parents wishes...  (some of the children I did foster respite for go to the school I work at and their adoptive mom got pissed when i spoke with them)  maybe that is part of the reason..

Answer 6

Try going to the old DHS office where your file was active.  Tell them your situation, and have a stamped envelope, open, with your invitation and a letter of explanation of how you got her address (through the foster care system) and that it's up to her to contact you, because you won't be able to get her address in reality, but they should forward it.

Your parents who have you now should probably go with you to assure the worker that this is alright with them, especially since you're under age.  However, a social worker, as busy as they are, sometimes will get a little boost in their own life to forward something good.  Many times, their jobs are so demanding, and the fact of what they do can be so stressing, that having somethng happy come out of their work is great.  Good luck for a happy reunion!

Also-you might still try searching for information under your foster dad's name, because many times, women don't change the phone bills, addresses, etc, because of safety factors.