How do i fix a totally messed up relationship?

Question

okay, so this is a long story. brace yourselves.

me and my dad used to be really close. i mean, closer than close. i could talk to him for hours.

this past year or so, i went down a bad path. which me and my parents knew was totally out of character. i was able to hide it until a few weeks ago. everything came out.

for some kids, this won't seem like a big deal. but my parents, of course thought i was pretty much perfect. i was more involved than they thought with a boy that they hated. (yeah, i'm still a virgin) but it went further than it should have. and i had been sneeking out to see him. and. yeah..

my dad thinks that like he never really knew me. but i don't know how to explain that i wasn't pretending to be something i wasn't. it was really me he was talking to. i just made some stupid decisions.

so anyways..my parents don't trust me anymore. and my dads basically heartbroken. we don't talk anymore.

so. if you guys know what i could do?

Answer 1

Regain their trust by respecting your parents and to stop under minding them. Parents know best because after all they too were you're age.  

Answer 2

Let him know that part of life is making mistakes...falling down then getting back up again.

Tell him you have a great foundation that your parents instilled to you.  That life is full of turmoil and that when things get tough your foundation is what will keep you up.

All kids make mistakes and sometimes doing things out of character. This is how you find out who you are...and who you aren't.

You know that you are not that person who runs around being sneaky - you just tried it out, made a mistake and realized that wasn't who you are - nor who you want to be.

Only Jesus was perfect and look what the world did to him.

Hope this helps.

Answer 3

i went through this with my dad. depending on your age, he is learning to let go of you. you are not his little girl anymore. you are doing what comes naturally for a teenager. this relationship is not over. its just changing. i am closer than ever to my dad, but im not his little girl anymore. im a woman, and hes my dad.

give everyone some time to adjust. but STOP sneaking out and doin stuff behind their back. find a compromise with what you want to do versus what they are comfortable with.