How do i get back with my ex boyfriend?

Question

My ex boyfriend is very busy person. But since he moved he has more times on his hand. It's been almost 4 months now since the split. But i still have feelings for him. It got to the point where i would text him non stop or calling him and leaving vast emails confessing on what i have to say. I even went to his friends to reconsider his mind and they even agreed that i was right for him. He even told me to stop talking to his friends even though i gain to be friends with with that person. However he got mad and told me to just "STOP" trying to get back with him and even told me that even slight chances or not just right now that I'm acting crazy and i should get help , he even said that i was dead to him. We even can't be friends because i was still attached to him and he saw through it and he wouldn't trust me as a friend yet.

It's been a month now and I'm getting myself together just for me. I worked out, tried to look good, kept myself occupied , worked , i even tried dating .But a part of me still misses him and i would like to make amends with him. I do love him and we did love each other when we're together. I don't want lose him because he did put me through a lot that helped me and made me feel special. I had three prior relationships and nothing was special than this one. I grown from them but i don't wanna lose this one. Even though he treated me like c**p afterwords, i'm willing to work through it. I don't know what to do , to get back with him? or how to gain his trust back? or even be his friend?

sorry for the long story

Answer 1

you want him back because he was familiar.  it is a security blankey and you haven't found anything better yet.

why do you want him back?  he told you he doesn't want you back.  ok...let that soak in and MOVE ON!! we women waste so much of our lives pining after stupid men who dont' deserve us!!  wake up and smell the coffee...he is over it!

he isn't wasting his time on you...so why let him control YOUR LIFE by wasting your time on him?

just give it more time....don't be so desperate that you feel you need him just because you're not feeling good about yourself.

stop wasting your life and go find someone who wants YOU...

Answer 2

omg hes an a*shole! wow you totally deserve better. try dating again and show him you're fine. he'll get jealous and try to come back to you but don't give in.

Answer 3

It kind of sounds like you are harassing him. Leave him alone, don't talk to his friends. Give him space and alone time and if he really loves you he'll come back to you. Guys need space, they need to think. I know and understand you just love him but it could be for the best. (Yes I know that line is so painful)

Answer 4

He doesn't want to be with you. You need to let it go. I understand where your at because I've been there. I know it is easier said then done but it can be done! You need to stop thinking about him ever waking minute and move on.

Answer 5

I feel sorry for you  I know . I got my heart broken too, but it gets better.  time to move on stop beaning a fool.  

Answer 6

first of all why did you split up and i think you should move on like he did or you'll just make yourself suffer  

Answer 7

look i'll help you. fist give the guy guy some space. second, don't email him or call him, visit him by person. And don't visit him 24/7 visit him like once every 2 or 3 times a week. and you should talk to him seriously. good luck!!

Answer 8

sweetie you really should let him go...and since he asked you to stop and said u're crazy so you really should cause ongoing nagging won't take you anywhere...a guy needs his space to think no matter how long it takes him... U couldn't move on because you don't want to get it off of your mind...well you should u can't live this way for the rest of your life...

I went through the same issue and i thought i can NEVER get over him, but eventually it really happened and i won a great man that now i'm engaged to....my ex bf treated me like c**p too and he never responded to my calls or texts nor emails...nothing...

now after a year he's beggin me to get back with him... but he was too late =)

move on sweetie he's not worth it...if he truly loves you he wouldn't let you go through this hard time same applies on the idea if he ever wants you back...

so please let it outta ur head...since u look better and u're workin out there are many many guys who'd LOVE to be with you and adore the ground you walk on...ur ex is an ex and can't be ever urs again especially if it's been that long... if it's been a week or so i'd say okay it's worth a tr\y but four months is quite a long time to reconsider a relationship...

good luck...xx

Answer 9

this story was long so i didnt read it but...but i can still tell you based on the title dont try to get back with your ex...because he's and ex for a reason...exes are nothing but trouble 98% of the time and they never change

Answer 10

What part of 'you are crazy' and 'stop' didn't you get from him?

He obviously wants nothing to do with you. And you after one month going to start and harrass him again is not going to make him 'come around' and realize that you are 'the one'

Answer 11

wow im sorry but i dont think you will be able to again

just dont call him that much and if anything went wrong that made yous split then tell him sorry

Answer 12

Getting your ex back can be very difficult, considering we often act on pure emotions than on rational thinking.

My best friend recently went through a breakup and found a website that she claims was the sole reason she was able to get back with her ex.

I was a bit skeptical at first, but it was pretty remarkable witnessing how she was able to get her ex back after she followed the advice from the website. The tactics are a bit unconventional, but they absolutely work - my friend is proof.

Here is the website if you are interested - hope it can do for you what it did for my friend:

http://winbackyourextoday.blogspot.com/

Answer 13

He's not worth it.  I went through this with my first real boyfriend and it wasn't until over a year later that I realised how bad for me he really was.  It can take such a long time to get over someone, but its worth it in the end when you finally realise you're over them.

Answer 14

i don't want to sound bad or anything , but you need help, the guy says "to him you are dead" have you no self respect for yourself, girl put a little shame in your eyes and let the man go his merry way. remember his friends are not your friends. and he is right you are acting crazy. Are you?

i don't think you should be wanting this man so bad since he obviously DON'T want you.

what you should do is as you said keep yourself occupied doing things for yourself and enjoy life, move on and up FORGET ABOUT HIM  you might be running down Mr wrong while Mr right  passes you by.

I'll tell you what to do to get him back, ........  forget him

have you ever heard of the saying.. "If you love something, let it go,  if it comes back to you it's your, if it doesn't it never was."