How do i get children to sleep by themselves?

Question

my friends daughter is 9 yrs old and still sleeps with her. her daughter trys to sleep by her self but she says shes not usto it and shes sweats and sometimes gets night mares

Answer 1

Your friend needs to make her daughter stay in her own bed, despite not sleeping and bad dreams.  It would be better to do it when the house can afford to not get much sleep.  But either way, dont let her sleep unless she is alone in her own bed.

This is why it is important to break kids of this very early.  While there is nothing overly wrong with a child sleeping with the parent, they loose or never gain the ability to sleep on their own.

Answer 2

I have a friend who's daughter slept with her until she was 12 then eventually longed to be sleeping in her own bed. We were all worried about how long that would happen. But a way that she could get her to sleep in her own bed was putting her in her bed and rubbing\patting her back and singing to her eventually she fell asleep. A way to make her not too scared was by putting a night light in her room.And warm milk helps any age.And to get used to anything you have to do it. Time will definitely this problem. Best wishes from the dream girl.

Answer 3

I might try a night light toy.  At Target's web site they have Chicco Night - Light Soother for $29.99

Answer 4

haha yeah this is  agood question..my daughter is five and its just me and her at home, I have her sleep with me because I don't feel safe letting her be in her room. But, we'll be moving the end of october...I plan on letting her in her room, and then I know she will attempt to keep coming in my bed, but I will just have to remove her and put her back, its gonna be a pain in the butt but its my own fault.

Answer 5

Two of our kids had this problem too.  We didn't want them to sleep in our room, nor did we want to be harsh and just leave them in their rooms with their fears. We tried night lights, dream catchers, and "searching the room for monsters" before bedtime.  None of it worked.  Our oldest was able to overcome his problem when we moved his little sister into his room so we could fix up hers.  They were good buddies for a while, but after a few weeks he wanted his room back to himself.  He never asked to have anyone sleep in his room again (that is, until he was 17, but that's another story,  LOL).

With our youngest, my husband would go into her room and lie down on the floor for a while.  He set a time limit - 10 or 15 minutes, after which he firmly left.  Usually she was asleep by that time.  Gradually he shortened the time he would spend there, until finally it was just a few minutes before saying good night.  

We also praised them for sleeping alone all night and told them how grown up that was.  I think it helped.

Hope these ideas help.  If all else fails, remember that there will come a day when she won't want her parents in her room at all.  Trust me, this doesn't last forever.

Answer 6

I would put the child in bed. When she comes to my room take her back to bed. And keep doing it. My son slept in the same bed with me until he was 2 (because I was 18 and lived at my parents) and when I moved into my own house after I got married he had his own room. And I did that same method and he cried and cried and it took everything I had not to give into him but now he happily sleeps in his own bed (he's 6) and now me and my hubby can sleep peacefully.