How do i get help for my son he keeps getting F's ?

Question

He's in eip and I payed for tutor services and nothing helps please help?We try so hard and nothing works and I see in his eyes that he wants to cry but I tell him we will keep at it until we get it right no matter what.He gives his all.What a parent to do he's in 6 grade ?

Answer 1

Get him tested to see if there is an underlying cause like dyslexia or something.

Answer 2

Do you mean IEP, as in you have already met with the teacher/school and gotten him evaluated?  

IEP stands for individualized education plan and it is for students with special needs.  If that is what you mean, then you should at least have some idea of what his deficits are and have been recommended to resources to assist him.  If not, that is of course your first step.  No sense paying for private testing if the school can provide it.  However, if you do not agree with the results of the school's evaluation, or if it seems in any way inadequate, you can certainly pay for a second opinion.  

Once you have a dianosis of what the problem is (learning disability, etc.) as well as a clearer understanding of his strengths, weaknesses, and his performance level--learning style, reading level, aptitudes, etc., then find out what free services he may qualify for through the school and other community organizations.  If there is a teaching university near you, find out what programs they may offer that might assist him.  If it is a particular problem such as dyslexia, and you have the financial means, you might want to look for a private school that specializes in teaching children with that particular learning disorder.

In the meantime, try and look for ways to boost his self-esteem if possible.  I know he needs to focus on academics, but try and find time during the summer or weekends to develop and showcase other abilities and give him opportunities for success.  Scouting, 4-H, sports leagues, camps, etc. as well as other church and/or community organizations may help him feel a sense of belonging and may even motivate him toward achievement in his area(s) of interest.  Some of the programs and activities within these organizations may help him with life skills and self-discipline that will actually help him in his school work, but more than that will help him gain confidence and self-worth that will keep him from feeling defeated!  Try and help him discover what things he is good at, and then work on subjects and programs that will give him the skills and experience he needs in these areas--not everyone is cut out for college and "book smarts"--we need good mechanics and other skilled trades that may be a better fit for his abilities.

The last thing you want is for him to get so disgusted with school that he stops trying--make sure your expectations and your consequences for his grades are realistic and fair, and that somehow you are striving to keep him internally motivated.  

Good luck!

Answer 3

It sounds like you have tried lots of things.  I would suggest maybe trying a Montessori school.  They let each child progress at their own rate.  At the one my daughter attended every child had their own lesson plan and got TONS of individual attention and it went through the 8th grade.

Here is a directory of Montessori schools in North Amerca:

http://www.montessori-namta.org/NAMTA/NA...

Keep up the effort.  Every chld has their own way of learnng and sometmes it just takes a whle to find it.

Answer 4

have you tried sylvan learning center.

They are probably not giving him the attention he needs at school. Have you tried talking to him about his learning strategies? that would give you some insight and you could possibly help him in a way since you know you child better.

I'm sure he's not dumb. (he could be dislexic, have some kind of learning disability or something...) just try gettgin into his head. Be there for him 100% until you start seeing improvements.

I mean i used to get F's in school. But i know how to speak 4 languages fluently and I have a great accounting job.making good money and I run a small buisness. And people can't believe when i tell them i used to fail all of my classes. They're like " you're so smart". that has nothing to do with it. but its enough about that. Im sure he understand what is being taught to him. But has a hard time putting it down on paper. thats the problem i had. Just figuring out how to express myself and retain that correct information. if worst comes to worse you can always home school him.lol im serious!! And you can possibly find some kind of method.

good luck

Answer 5

Try homeschooling.  I know it is a drastic alternative and an inconvenience, but his education is priority.  If your concerned enough to get on here and ask for advice, then it sounds like your compassionate enough to devote the time it takes.  Sometimes kids comprehend and learn better without the distractions that are present at public schools.  At home he can do it at his pace and comfort level.  Alot of people frown on it because of the social skills part, but there are other things like the community center and such that you can take him to, besides,  with the things they learn in public schools these days and the peer pressure put on children, it is worth teaching him at home.

Answer 6

I would take him to get evaluated, hard to say without knowing him. He may have a learning disability, add, adhd or anythin.

Answer 7

Is this a recent issue, if it is he may need counseling to find the under laying issues. You must have seen a doctor about his problems at some point if he is on an iep, so I would go back and talk to the doctor again.

Answer 8

i think is that you need to let your kid knows that you love him no matter what he got on the report cards. That you are always there for him.... then ask him what make him fail his test and all that... dont push him and make him feel like he got something wrong ... and i think you gotta be there when hes studying, tell him that he will pass, maybe that helps...