How do i get married at 17? or have my girlfriend emacipated at 16? molestation?

Question

ok... im 17 years old.. my girlfriend is 16... we have been together for a very long time and her step-dad hates me.. so now he's sayin they are moving and she has to go with them... but there's a HUGE TWIST! ok.. see for the past 3 years my girlfriends step-dad has been sexually molesting her.. i've wanted to do something about it. (he doesn't know that i know). she wants to tell on him but he keeps saying that her mom would kill herself if she told on him... so0o0o0 im stuck.. i mean..

do i tell??? me and my girlfriend want to get married... but we need parental consent.. which isn't a problem for me... but her.. i dont know... BUT.. i was looking into the law and found that if she gets emacipated than she doesnt need parental concent to get married... i've done my reaserch and have reached a dead end.. basically im askin for any help i can get... ANYTHING! so please! if you have any suggestions... any at all.. even if they are stupid... tell me.. THANKS!

Answer 1

i think that you should tell some1 about the molestation, its just wrong if i knew something like that about my gf it would kill me to have her father walking the streets un-punished, im not sure about her getting emacipated

i thought that her parents would have to agree too or have a VERY good reason to do it...so you would have to tell anyway right? GL with the marrige hope it all works out well    

Answer 2

You should NOT get married. Even if you've been together for that long, you are still too young. I've been with my hunny 3 years and I'm 17 and we have a son but marriage is a big no no...you need the maturity that will come to you before you get married...I don't believe in regret so I don't want you to do anything you WOULD regret. Don't get me wrong, I'm not saying you guys aren't in love. She should tell her mom what he's doing, if her mom would kill herself than that is immaturity and selfishness right there and she never loved her daughter in the first place. If she cares for her daughter she will save her, not make it harder for her. If you don't want ur gf to be mad at you then make an anonymous call to cps and say you saw him do something. That is wrong and no 16 year old should LET him do it for ANY reason. I'd bite his you know what right off!!!! Give her some support and let her know you'll protect her, she needs to get emancipated and get out of there. Even if you wanna live together that's fine...marriage is something for the future. I really hope you can help her!!

Answer 3

in some satates you can get married at 16/plus you should definetly tell about the molesting

Answer 4

Well the first step is she needs to tell someone what her step dad is doing to her. Keeping it a secret is wrong and only allows a criminal to keep breaking the law. My father did that to me and I never told anyone until it was too late and now he is still free as a bird and I'm scarred for life. Marriage shouldn't be an "out" for you guys. Not when she has other options. You are too young to get married and to do it just to get her away from him is stupid. You need to go about this the right way by contacting the authorities. Don't listen to her when she says, "my mom will kill me if I tell". She already told you, and that's enough. If you love her, you'll get her help.  

Answer 5

First and foremost, if she is being molested, it is not okay for her to be there. At all. An anonymous tipoff to the police would work fine. If she has nearby relatives, they'll remove her from the house and put her with them. If not, it gets more complicated.

In order for a minor to emancipate herself, she'd have to prove that she could financially support herself and had a place to live (a relative counts here).  It gets very complicated. But the most important thing is for her to get out of an abusive home as soon as possible. Best of luck.

Answer 6

Duuuude, first ov all. -She- needs to tell someone who has proper authority what her step-father has been doing to her. Not sure where abouts ya are, but in Australia, welfare would step in and he wouldn't be allowed to see her ever again let alone take her away! And then, they'd give her somewhere to live until she's 18 -or- until she can prove to them she's safe and stable on her own. Which means youse would be allowed to see each other, without that loser. So that's the first thing you pair should do!

Then if welfare did step in, she'd be able to work her way around the system and youse could get married. But I also agree with that other person, you shouldn't use marriage as an escape from him. There -are- other ways around monsters like him. :]

GOODLUCK! And all the best.

God bless.

PS: Welfare = Children Services.

Answer 7

you should really talk to someone about this situation. molestation is a very serious accusation so i would talk to a counselor or pastor or whoever you trust to give you suggestions on what you should do