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How do i get my 11 monthold to sleep in her own bed? or better yet, how do i let her?

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i have heard that i need to do it before she starts walking so i guess that would be now. I have tried but its hard on both of us i guess. I lost my first baby so i guess i have separation anxiety. i get scared to leave her in her bed even thought she is only about 6 ft from my bed. I cant sleep if i can have her in my reach or right next to me.

i guess this question is for me- how do i deal and for her how do i get her to do it once ive overcome my fear.

I have put her in her bed twice and she did good until she woke up and i put her back with us in bed. please help me know what to do.

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  1. You are right, it is your problem, not the baby's. I think you might just expect to lose a few night's sleep, and just stay awake and check on her through out the night. She is 11 months old, so she isn't likely to die of sids. That usually happens to younger infants. Perhaps you can talk to a priest or minister, or go to a support group for parents that have lost children. You need some help to get through this, and shouldn't have to do it alone. Best of luck to you. I am sorry for your loss and hope your baby brings you great joy and comfort, and that she enjoys good health.

    ps - you already know what to do--you are looking for some assurance that everything will be OK-it will be--when you learn to get over your own fear.


  2. You need to show her you are an adult and do not need her as your securty blanket. She doesn't care where she sleeps and yes the earlier you put her in her own bed the easier it will be, separating a child from their parents bed can take years if you allow them to sleep with you past a year to two years. I'm glad you are doing this now. Continue putting her in her bed for every nap and at bedtime. If she awakens, she is used to instant comfort because she is next to you. Instead of picking her up, pat her back to comfort her, try to stop patting her before she goes to sleep, so she learns to comfort herself, or self soothe herself back to sleep. If you are consistent then you will have a very peaceful baby within a week, sleeping in her own bed. Consistency is the key, she needs to know that this is what is going to happen each and every time she goes to bed or awakens in the night. BE CONSISTENT!!! As far as your fear you are gong to put that fear onto your daughter if you continue clinging to her. I understand the loss of a child, but you need to trust that your daughter is fine and healthy and remember that no matter how close she is to you something can always happen, you cannot always keep her safe. Good luck!

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