How do i get my baby to stop being use to lifting?

Question

My 4 month baby will always and i mean ALWAYS cry whenever i put her down. How do i get her use to just laying there ? even when she's sleeping she has to be held. Her cot has never been used because every time i put her down (even when she's sleeping) she will cry until i pick her up then she stops crying and falls back to sleep. I am willing to try anything please????

Answer 1

I'm afraid you have to do the cry method leave her for tow mins and then go back and rub her back and give her a kiss then gradually increase the time away till she drops off. It's a heart string puller but works like a dream. Buy Gina Ford Contented baby. It saved my sanity! good luck :)

Answer 2

Mine was like that...they say it is a sign of a bright baby...clever...they want to be part of the action ALL the time. Have you tried swaddling? Look on youtube under SWADDLE for really good instructions....

Answer 3

My girl did that at about 3 months.  It's a battle of the wills--when it's time for bed put her in the cot and close the door.  Let her cry.  You KNOW there is nothing wrong.  She's fed, she's changed, she's already been cuddled.  

It should only take two or three nights before she gets it.  If you don't do this now then you'll be doing this when she's two!  That's no fun.

Really, just stick it out.  Close the door and walk away.  I know it's hard to let your crying baby cry--but she can't rely on you as her "soother" forever.

You can do it!  Good luck!

Answer 4

if there is nothing else wrong with her, let her cry.  she has to get used to it.

Answer 5

My daughter was the same way. What I did was have her sleep in my lap, then over the course of a few days shift her over little by little to a pillow next to me. (to keep it the same level)  eventually it got the point where she would sleep and lay next to me as long as I had my arm on her.  Then when ever I needed my arm I would say 'Mommys going to blah blah blah I'll be right here and then you can have my arm back" add even as a baby it seemed to help. Then move on to being near her with out touching but just keep talking the sound of your voice with comfort her. start in small time amounts and move to larger as shes more comfortable.

Theres no easy fix to this. You just have to be patient and work on it. it will help once she can sit up cause she'll have so much to explore and look at.

I know it seems odd explaning things to a 4month old but it really does help them with anxioty. also you might as well start now cause your gonna blink and be explaning things to a 4yr old lol.

EDIT: just as a side note I never let my baby "cry it out" I dont really see how thats going to help except make your baby think shes alone. Shes not going to understand why theres no one there.  My Daughters 5 now and she very self confident and its because she knows she has love and suport when she needs it. Just take the time to work with your child past there fears so they know theres nothing to worry about.

Answer 6

If you let a baby cry for too long at that age it will actually damage neuro pathways and possibly hinder some sort of learning or intelligence later. Have you tried a swing? Or try swaddling her tight in a blanky so she feels like she's being held. There's also warming bears you can get that retain heat so it feels like there's someone there. Ask your pediatrician for more ideas. Good luck.

Answer 7

You have to let her cry. Not for a long time. Go in every 5-10 mins and rub her back and kiss her. Maybe sing a song. But then leave. Or you will continue to have this problem.

You brought this on, you should have stopped it sooner then 4 months, so it is gonna take some time and tears from you and your beautiful baby. But please fix it now don't wait. Or your baby will be 5 and sleeping in your bed.