How do i get my boyfriend to stop playing xbox live?

Question

all he want to do is play video games and will neglect me for days on end we have a family so neither one of us is going anywhere and when i sit him down and talk to him on how it makes me feel i'm the selfish one?

Answer 1

strip in front of the screen.. he will stop playing.. it works.. trust me.. i have done it.. but other then that unplug it throw it in the pool, if he complains tell him u r so sick of it and leave him, he is a child  

Answer 2

Maybe try and actually play against him (if you can). Otherwise make a deal with him that every minute he spends on the xbox he has to spend double with you.

Don't feel selfish for trying to make the relationship work.  If he won't give up time some time on the xbox, then maybe he isn't ready for a relationship.

Answer 3

You need to straighten up and get with the program.  If your boyfriend wants to play video games, he'll play video games.  If he needs a beer or something while he's playing, you'll bring them to him.  Now get off the internet and chop chop on that beer!

Answer 4

Just walk out of his life and if he dose come back, just say you have nothing to do with him till he learns to get off that xbox and start to man up and take care of you and his children! It's hard, but you have to do what's right for you kid(s) and your life! Or if you wanna do it the easy way, just grab a bat and bash his xbox and t.v lol.

Answer 5

Convascate the X-Box!!!

I have a 16 year old relative staying with me, and he is also an addict. He plays with people all over the world including U.S.A. and Thailand. He comes down for his meals, scoffs them in 20 seconds and returns to the X-Box. He stays up playing on it almost all night long. I can`t think why he bothered coming to stay with me, we never see each other. If he would go out somewhere I could get into his room to remove it, fat chance there!

Answer 6

if you don't whant to see him playing on the xbox you just need to buy him a playstation3 and he will never play xbox anymore

Answer 7

It's real simple, sweetie, and goes something like this...ever hear of a sledge hammer? Seriously, I have never understood the fixation so many guys have with those stupid video games, and I'm a guy!

Remind him there's a REAL world out there and that he needs to get back out in it before his brains finish turning to mush and start running out his @ss! Xbox and the rest DON"T help to pay the bills, Baby, not to mention the fact that toys make lousy lovers and can't help you like HUMAN friends can in time of need!

Answer 8

Tell him that he needs to get a life of his own and get a job so he can make his own money and be a successful husband to you in the future.  It sounds like he is being a loser to you and is saying that playing xbox is more important than spending time with you and the kids.  You need to tell him to stop playing or threaten that you will confiscate his xbox or just cancel the account itself.  Hopefully he won't commit suicide!

Answer 9

you cant get him to stop if he doesn't want to. stop trying to be so controlling.

and having a family with someone who cant stop playing xbox.....not a wise choice..

oh, and if you really just want the xbox gone alltogether. cut the power cord in half. easiest way to get rid of it. if he gets another one. cut it to.

Answer 10

Ha.. well depends on him you know you can talk all you want.. but he's got to decide which action to take..

Just make it known to him he's got to start taking responsibility

and spend less time on the xbox... there's more important matters at hand..

Answer 11

Why is it everyone blames the game and the guy playing it?

Have you ever stopped to think, asker, if there is something you're doing wrong in your relationship? Maybe there is a reason he would rather play the game than be with you. I'm not saying you're a bad girlfriend, but think about it.

Answer 12

If you can't work this out like adults(don't' break his xbox), it's a sure sign the relationship is doomed. Talk to him about it instead of us. There's way worse things he could be spending his time on and there will be much greater obstacles to come between you than xbox. If he won't compromise and you can't deal with it, get out. good luck...

Answer 13

You should start sleeping with his friends.  That's a sure way to get his attention.

Another option is to bail on him and go find someone interesting...

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Answer 14

Wrap a towel around the xbox and leave it on for a few days. or smash it. there are also time limits you can set for the amount of hours he can play a day.

Answer 15

i would tell him "look  i think you've been playing xbox WAY to much and when you ditch me for it it makes me feel bad and i'm seriously considering breaking up with you if you don't stop neglecting me for video games. i'm not asking you to NEVER play just get you priorities str8 and start putting your girlfriend before video games" hope this helps

LUV YA

JANE <3

Answer 16

uhhh u could delete the harddrive... im pretty sure u can do this by running a  magnet over it..  but thats really mean and the xbox probbably wouldnt work anymore.. but hey its up to u

Answer 17

Well addiction to xbox live is like addiction to nicotine. I suggest you force him to take a breath of fresh air and try to make him take his mind off of xbox live. Believe me my girl did it to me and it worked.

Answer 18

Well, guys love sports, games, and lots of s*x. it's hard for us to stop whatever we love enjoying to do. You aren't being selfish, but it kinda seems that way. You don't need him to stop, but set some time for the "US" time. ya know? just have a plan of what you want and when. or maybe make him come to a limit of when to play. Just talk to him.

Answer 19

Hes imature,leave him and make him pay for child support (if your married)Though if you want to go easy on him tell him he needs to be more resposible,what are you guys like 15-17 years old?? get a life..

Answer 20

It's kind of funny how everyone wants you to do all those things but the correct way is to talk to him. One day, just turn off the console and like tell him that he's gotta stop or you'll dump him.

Answer 21

Well, you should talk to him about it.  Both of you need to discuss it like adults, don't attack him over it.  It will go over more smoothly if you don't insult him or try to take it away completely.  You should just let him know that you care about him and that you and your child/children would really love some quality time with him.  Try to learn how to play the xbox with him or, if you have no interest in enjoying his hobby together, do something you enjoy while he plays his games.  There definitely needs to be a set time that he does this every day and the rest of the time should be spent working or with the family.

Answer 22

Ruin it for him - take an interest in the games, join in, and be as obnoxious as possible.

Answer 23

try playing the game with him or something.  or just threaten to dump him, do something that he would want you to stop you know like stop shaving if he's too into his game, or don't really leave him but go live with a relative or something for a while, but remember he's a human to so don't hurt him but make him realize that as a man he has a responsibility he has to go through with

Answer 24

went through the same thing with the Playstation.  I told him I would cut him off in bed if he didn't cut down on the game time.  Then I told him if he wasn't able to satisfy me, I would have to go else where.  He thought about if for a couple of minutes then we agreed on time limits of the game playing. Like when I wasn't home, or I was in bed, or busy doing something that I didn't need his help with.  It worked for me. Good Luck

Answer 25

From now on every time he wants to "go out" or "get it on" leave the house and go somewhere with your friends. after a few times maybe he'll realize how you feel when he plays video games. if it doesn't work. tie the xbox to the bumper of your car and drive around town for a while or take a drive on the freeway. Good luck!

Answer 26

You can "accidentally" break his games or his Xbox. I know it sounds mean, but It is the only way. Xbox Live is very addicting.  

Answer 27

if you ask him to stop playing it he might break up with you so what you do is act like you like the game and ask if you can play and of course he is going to say yes if not just get a remote and play with him anyways and boys dont like when girls get in our grills when we are playing games so sooner or later he is going to get tired of playing with you and he will get rid of the game

Answer 28

Whack him around the head. Tell him, if he doesn't start acting more mature, and supporting the family, your gonna have to end it. And, get rid of the xbox ... maybe? Is he abusive? If you do that... he might hit you. I was just looking at yopur page, he neglected you when you were preagnant!? DUMP HIS SORRY ****!

Also.. shouldn't this of been posted in somthing else. Like, friends and relation ship section..

Answer 29

flip the book on him and go do something that u enjoy and just ignore him until he speaks to you and tell him that u are going to do that thing u enjoy in a proud way. . .and he should just wonder what u are doing and wanna talk to you

Answer 30

Talk to him and tell him how you feel, even if you feel selfish hes ignoring you and you accepted it untill now and if he doesn't open his heart to your suggestion of quiting Xbox Live and having a Relationship then hes not worth your time, just be yourself and dont let your emotions get you to feel bad.

Answer 31

I have a boyfriend who is a rampant gamer. When I met him he made it abundantly clear that xbox and gaming are hobbies that he enjoys partaking of. Perhaps YOU need to open your eyes and see that his hobby is not something that he is going to grow out of and you need to take necessary steps to move on. Seriously. If you dislike it that much and he just doesn't "get it" then leave him. Fortunately I am a gamer too (to a much lesser degree than my bf) but my bf also has good priorities. We will spend time together and then I will also leave him for hours on end to play to his heart's content.

All these other suggestions of wiping his hard-drive and/or breaking his machine are incredibly juvenile and selfish. It's HIS hobby. Sure he's being a moron by not getting his priorities in order to the degree that he has a family and a lovely woman (you) to pay attention to, but at the same time, it's his hobby and something that he obviously enjoys a lot. Perhaps he is unhappy with things in his life and he immerses himself fully in his hobby which in turn results in you and the children not being on his priority list.  Then again, perhaps he's just not ready to give up his games. I don't know that my bf ever will, but I still love him a LOT. Also, as I mentioned, I'm blessed that my bf is able to prioritise (altho when Halo 3 was released I was virtually invisible for a while there!!)

I'm sorry to sound harsh, but it seems that perhaps you're not realising the truth about the situation. Maybe you need to go stay with the family for a while and ditch the guy??

Just my thoughts anyhow.