How do i get my ex to back off?

Question

My childrens father and his wife have this way of trying to run my life how do i stop this? they are always telling me how i should do things with the kids...how to brush thier teeth, when to feed them, what to feed them, when to streach what muscles to streach (my son has CP), when it is all stuff that i do and have always done. his wife steps over that step mom line all the time....example.. she signed my daughter up for scoccer after i already told them that i was doing it, she is wanting to cut 5" off my daughters hair even though i do not want her to and my daughter doesnt want to, making eye, doctor, dentist, therapy appts that i have always taken care of in the past, its not like it wasnt getting done. i have been just letting it go but i am to the point that i cant stand it any more!

Answer 1

tell him fu(k u

Answer 2

Sharing the care of children is hard. Everyone involved has the "best interest of the children in mind." or do they?

Request and schedule a sit down discussion with your ex and his new misses. Start off with suggesting a real team effort and setting "ground rules such as whom will take care of doctor appointments - physical needs - sporting activities - grooming, clothing. Etc. . . . .  If that doesn't sound reasonable to them, well then suggest setting structuring like a business. . . . You as CEO - Your ex as VP and the new misses as secretary. . . . . She can only do for the children what you and/or the ex assign her.

Of course, you must suggest this action in all seriousness, but yet with a smile on your face.   (they will in and involved your life FOREVER.

& no you can not pick up and move away. . . . as one suggested. You are an adult, grown people deal with their issues, not run away from them. Think of the kid's people. Think about the kids. They have feelings too.

Answer 3

either move away with the kids so they shut up or get into their face and tell them to shut up. you need to set boundaries or make it a legal action

Answer 4

They have 50% choice of doing what they want.  You and their father have to decide what is best for your children and go from there.

Answer 5

Set them straight. But politely. Tell them you appreciate their help, but you are taking on the responsibilities. That they are your children to, and that you WERE nice enough to offer them that much custody. Tell them that are handling your children's personal lives, and will not make them do things they do not have to do (like cutting your daughters hair). And tell them that if they continue bothering you and taking over your children's lives, their custody will be moved to one week a month and some holidays. Though he is the father, you are the mother and need to keep your children happy. The two homes and continuous traveling may be bothering them. Talk to your children about it, too.