How do i get my exboyfriend to realize what he had?

Question

we were together for a year but argued alot so we took a break. we are 21 and 22, so we both need time to not be stressed with alot of things in life. we talk everyday still, and go out with our same group of couple'd friends...we even end all conversations with i love you. he says i;m the one he wants to marry, and we are talking to get back together. my bday just passed and he got my gift came to my gathering, and even got a room together...my parents hate the idea of him putting me on hold.

i just wonder how do i get him to realize what he had in a RELATIONSHIP with me??

Answer 1

bring up the past.

the good times you had,

make him realize how lucky he was.

Answer 2

It sounds like you are giving him all the benefits of a relationship without any of the commitment.  Since you broke up, what exactly has changed for him if you still spend all your time together?  

This arrangement only makes the breakup easier for him and harder for you.  If you want him to realize what he had, he needs to be missing out, which it sounds like he is not.

It may be hard, but make him suffer the consequences.  Don't be mean, but respect yourself enough to not give your time and self if he will not commit to you.  You deserve better!

It sounds scary, but in 90% of these situations the person comes around when they see they have to earn your time.  Be strong!  Good luck!

Answer 3

Don't waste your time on  your ex boyfriend.  It sounds like he's already moved on and has you waiting in the background.  Find other friends to go out with.  If your ex cannot commit to you, let him go.