How do i get my family off my back about this?

Question

Ok, so I'm 16 and lost my mom (due to cancer) when I was 14. I live with my sisters (who are 27 and 30), one of their kids, and my dad.

I'm still in high school; im in Magnet (gifted classes), take Honors, and will be taking AP. I'm in the drill team at school and was vice president of sophomore council (soon to be junior council for me). I have a paying job. I clean ater myself, I clean the kitchen and restroom. I do laundry for myelf, one of my sisters, and my dad's. Every article of clothing you see me in, I've payed for myself. I pay my phone bill and I'm paying the Dish bill again.

But i guess that's not enough. I find my family nagging at me, almost daily, saying that I don't do anything (they usually say this when they see me laying down, watching tv. hello?! drill team practice is TIRING. can't i relax for a while?)

IM SO TIRED OF THIS! I always get the feeling that I'm not appreciated in this house. YES, they all work and buy food (and i thank them everytime for buying food and keeping up with the house), but I think I do good myself.

I feel like I'm a dissapointment to them or something (how can i? my grades are good, i dont drink, i dont smoke, i dont have s*x.)

what can i say to them to show that i REALLY DO appreciate everything they do and to help them see that I'm doing pretty good for a teenager?

Answer 1

i think you should talk to a counselor at school about this. if you approach your family with this, they most likely will turn the issue around to suit themselves. you seem to be so stressed out and this is not good. if all you said is true, i totally agree with you . good luck and if your counselor approaches your father, your father will listen.

Answer 2

Hang in until your 18 then move out and to h**l with them!

Answer 3

If you truly want to show them how much of a help you are, quit helping altogether. Let them see how much of an impact you have. Of course this is quite a cynical way to show it, but it would work.

Try to work it out in whatever way you can though. You don't want to strain a relationship with your family...I had to learn the hard way. Try to explain to them that you really are doing as much as you can and remind them how old you are. Maybe ask them what they were doing when they were kids and compare to see if you are actually doing way more than they did at the time.

Either way, tension between family members is never good.

Answer 4

Tell them to back off, you're a kid, not a slave.