How do i get my husband to want the baby we are planning now?

Question

me and my husband had been talking about wanting a baby and we decided that june we would remove my IUD. well we removed the iud june 11th so i though that meant that we would start trying but NO it just means using comdoms or pulling out until he changes his mind. if he didnt want a baby with me he was in the doctors with me when i had it removed he could have opened his mouth and said so he wasnt ready. now i have to use condoms or have him pull out and hope to get pregnant on pre c u m. he says he wants to be prepared all the way first i was under the impression that prepared meant that making sure we both wanted it but turns out his idea of prepared is buying every piece of furnature and every box of diapers and wipes and all that stuff that we would ever need. he has gone out and bought a new play pen, bassinett, swing, crip pooh bedding , a boppy pillow, boxes and boxes of diapers and wipes, etc but he says that he wants everything, he want a stroller, clothes, and just about everything we could need before we even stop the condoms or pulling out. I am going nuts i have all this baby stuff and after removing the iud it is making my periods late so i go for a week each month hoping i amm pregnant just to find out i am not. and it is so stressful. how can i make him understand that we will ahve 9 whole ,months to get ready he went and bought a babyproofing your marriage book that we read together every night but he will not start actually trying. my kids from last marriage are 4 and 5 and by the time we have our own my youngest will be atleast 5 and i want all my kids to be close together please does anyone have any advice for me to help him understand that we are more than enough prepared. there is going to be nothing left for people to get for a baby shower.

Answer 1

Wow .... he is being extreme. Is he this paranoid with everything?  

Answer 2

I also had my iud taken out in june. I was ready to take it out in april though but my husband wasnt ready for a baby yet. I also had a hard time with him realizing the baby wouldnt magically appear right away...lol. He was just thinking how hard it would be with a newborn, a 2yo, and a 5 yo. I finally got him to understand that we probably wouldnt get pregnant the first time and by the time the baby came our 2 boys would be almost 4 and 7 (their bdays are both in the summer). Once he realized it would be almost a year before the baby came he said he was ready to try..: )

Also, my dr recommended waiting atleast a month after removing the iud to try and get pregnant. He said that the uterus could get irritated from having the iud removed and it could make you more likely to have a miscarriage. He said there werent any big studies done but why take the chance.

Answer 3

He sounds a little bit nurotic!  Buy a pack of cloth diapers and tell him you are going to use them and when the baby actually gets here make him buy regular diapers!  LOL   You can't force him to be ready, but it sounds like you guys might need to go see a marriage couselor to cork out his issues!

Answer 4

Okay,

Let me be the voice of reason here. I don't mean this in a mean way, but how does your hubby know that you are going to be blessed to have a child.

I am not saying it is not going to happen, but he is putting the cart in front of the horse here.

Would this be his first kid? If so, you probably know better that there are just some things you cannot control. I understand him being worried about finances, but does he realize how unhappy this is making you?

Can I suggest that you guys go to a counseling session or two? I think you have a more realistic idea of how things are supposed to happen.

Good luck girl.... Lots of baby dust your way....

Answer 5

Your husband is just plain off his rocker. Does he know, for instance, that disposables have a use-by date? That's because the chemicals won't work properly after a while.  Plastics age.  Wipes boxes dry out (I know, I had one dry out 8 months after I bought it because I misplaced it).  You need to get a little control on this guy. He is losing it. Stop playing into his games. This is not adult behavior.